MOVING OUT AT 29 | Why it was the best decision
Moving out as a young adult in Singapore is far less common than it is overseas. And while it can be financially burdensome and far from the cosy family home you once lived in, it can also be a refreshing change you never knew how badly you needed.
I knew I needed to move out to give myself room to breathe and grow. Here are five reasons why it was the best decision for me:
1. Independence is a funny thing. For example, some days I wish I could come home to a cooked meal waiting for me but most days, I get by with slow evenings in the kitchen or whipping up fast meals and finding out I’m better at taking care of myself than I realise. It brings a feeling of fulfilment. There is joy in being self-sufficient.
2. Moving into a new space meant starting on a literal new slate. I didn’t have decades of siblings’ clothes, books or toys around the house. It was just an apartment, furnished for living and with so, so much empty room — for me to breathe, to grow and to create. Suddenly my thoughts are clearer, my days more productive and my being more light. Having physical space frees up mental space.
3. There were no more overlapping voices (don’t get me wrong, sometimes noise is needed — it’s life and joy) and yelling or rushing or frustration over chores undone. Everyday plays out at a pace you decide. It is intentional and it is meditative. I appreciate my morning coffees, reading, stretching and more now. It cultivates gratitude for the smallest everyday things.
4. Before, I didn’t really have a bedroom to myself so rest was premised on many factors. I had to be considerate, I had to think ahead before going into bed, I had to watch where I put my things. Now I have my cosy bedroom and a queen-sized bed to call my own. I head to sleep happy and have peaceful nights alone. I finally understand what true rest feels like.
5. Perhaps most important for me — as someone who enjoys hosting — is having the space to have people over. To laugh, to cry, to share experiences, to sit quietly. And most of all to make room to create some of the best memories of my young adulthood.
If you’re considering moving out, it comes with many other things to note — like financial independence, a steady income, navigating rental landscapes and reserves you must set aside to take care of the house. It by no means is an easy decision but I hope it will be as wonderful for you as it has been (and continues to be) for me 🥹❤️
Having made the decision to move out at 29, I can attest to how transformative the experience truly is beyond just gaining independence. One of the biggest surprises was how much physical space literally freed up my mental space. Without decades of accumulated stuff or the noise of a busy household, I found myself more productive and mentally clear. It was like decluttering my mind along with my environment. Another aspect worth mentioning is the deepened appreciation for the small rituals that became possible only in my own space. Simple routines like having morning coffee at a relaxed pace, mindful stretching, or dedicating quiet moments to reading fostered a powerful sense of gratitude. Such intentional living practices helped reduce daily stress and cultivate peace. Financial preparation is crucial, especially in a city like Singapore where rentals can be costly and leasing terms strict. A steady income and emergency funds made the transition smoother and less stressful. I also learned a lot about the practicalities involved — from choosing the right rental property and understanding lease agreements to budgeting for utilities and maintenance. These responsibilities, though challenging initially, built my confidence and self-reliance. Rest became one of the most rewarding benefits. Having my own cozy bedroom and queen-sized bed transformed how I slept. There was no need for compromises or constant consideration of others’ schedules. I experienced what true rest feels like when you have autonomy over your space and time. Finally, having a space to welcome friends and loved ones added immense joy. Hosting became a new way to connect deeply, create lasting memories, and express myself. Those moments of genuine sharing—laughter, tears, or quiet companionship—highlighted how moving out isn’t just about living alone but creating a meaningful home environment. Moving out is undoubtedly a big step filled with ups and downs, but the benefits of physical space, mental freedom, and personal growth made it one of the best decisions I've made. For anyone considering it, I recommend assessing your financial situation carefully, embracing intentional living, and valuing the quiet moments that your own space will afford you.
