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Recognize what comes to mind as uncontrollable, to control our hearts instead.

Everything we encounter in life, what we see as a problem or an unease, is many times not caused by a place or people around us alone, but by a "mind that interprets it."

When we are uncomfortable with what is in front of us, we often think that if we change, change people, change the environment, everything will improve, but the truth is that if our hearts continue to think, look at the same world, interpret everything the same way, wherever we go, the problem will only change the pattern, not really disappear.

It's like we change the scene of life, but we also use the same script, the same feeling will follow, we may meet new people, new situations, but we will still feel the same "uncomfortable, same, disturbed."

Because what really determines experience is not just external things, but "how our hearts choose to look at it."

So escaping a problem may temporarily move us away from certain situations, but it does not really make us understand or end it. If the mind does not change, it will always return in other ways.

The more important thing is not to run for the undisputed, but to train the mind to look at problems in a new way, to know what is controlled and what is perceived by us but not to be our identity.

When our hearts become quieter, the same things that afflicted us may remain the same, but our feelings for them will change, and that's where we no longer have to escape.

# Recognize, understand, let go # Control our hearts # Let go of the uncontrollable

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