The importance of Common Sense
Common Sense-Love
When you think of love, what are you thinking, Is it just a feeling or just words and if so, what does it feel like? I asks these questions because I think sometimes love gets confused with many things. Sometimes it can be the fear of being alone, or the ideal of a dream, infatuation, or even the desire to save others.
RESPECT is the first feeling I had for my guy which is a powerful component when you’re looking for sustenance. I had to learn that when someone respects you, uplift you, protect you and give you your praise, there’s one common denominator that follows. It’s more than a feeling. Either way, or however, you think of love, make sure you understand love is not unhealthy, love does not hurt, it’s not abusive, nor is it painful.
We have to use our common sense and realize that even the people we think we love can hurt us, even the people we think we love, we can’t save from themselves. It can be so confusing.
There’s a song back in the day. Some of you may be too young to know it, but it was by the spinners I believe, and it said it takes a fool to learn that love don’t love nobody. I’m not a relationship expert or psychologist, nor do I know everything about love, It’s just my thoughts!!
In my personal experience, applying common sense in relationships can make a significant difference in maintaining healthy emotional connections. Love is often idealized as pure emotion, but without common sense, it can become clouded by confusion, fear, or unrealistic expectations. For example, recognizing when feelings of loneliness are mistaken for love helps prevent staying in unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships. Respect stands out as a foundational element in all my relationships. When someone respects, uplifts, and values you, it creates a space where love can genuinely grow beyond mere feelings. It’s important to remember that love should not involve pain, abuse, or manipulation. Common sense teaches us to identify red flags and differentiate between affection and harmful behavior. Another lesson I learned is that we cannot save others from their own struggles, even if we care deeply for them. Sometimes, love requires setting boundaries and understanding that personal growth must come from within. This realization can be difficult but is crucial for emotional well-being. Lastly, reflecting on old songs or cultural wisdom, like the one mentioned by The Spinners, highlights how learning from experience often shapes our understanding of love. It takes maturity and common sense to recognize what love truly entails, making our relationships more meaningful and sustainable over time.
I love your thoughts on love and I too believe in common sense and using it! My Momma taught me to use it and learn to be independent in case I found myself alone in life. Be able to do for myself and not to ever be dependent on anyone and give everyone the benefit of a doubt so I taught my boys the same. I’ve only found a problem with the benefit of a doubt lesson she taught me because some are not deserving of it to the point they will use it to take me down. 😄 I analyze people more now days beforehand….that common sense kicking in!