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... Read moreWhen I first chose the path of abstinence, I honestly didn't anticipate the profound psychological effects it would have on me. Most conversations focus on the physical aspect, but the mental and emotional journey has been incredibly eye-opening. It's not just about what you're not doing; it's about what happens within you, how your mind adapts, and what new feelings surface. One of the most significant challenges I've encountered is feeling 'touch deprived.' It's a real thing, and it subtly impacts your mood and sense of connection. Simple, non-sexual physical affection – like a comforting hug from a friend or family member – suddenly feels incredibly valuable, almost essential. There's a longing for that human closeness that goes beyond romantic intimacy. I've noticed that without these small, regular touches, I sometimes feel a bit more isolated or even irritable. It's made me realize how much comfort and reassurance we derive from physical contact, even platonic. Beyond touch deprivation, my journey with celibacy has brought a rollercoaster of emotions. Initially, there were moments of frustration and loneliness, especially when I saw couples around me. My mind would sometimes wander, questioning my decision. However, as time went on, I started experiencing unexpected clarity and a heightened sense of self-awareness. It's like the energy that was once directed towards romantic pursuits or thoughts is now being redirected. I've found myself more focused on my goals, my personal growth, and deepening my existing friendships. I've learned that it's actually best to take smaller steps and to not be super restrictive with myself. Instead of viewing abstinence as a harsh deprivation, I've reframed it as an intentional choice to channel my energy elsewhere. This approach has prevented me from feeling overly constrained and has allowed me to appreciate the benefits more genuinely. If you're considering or are currently practicing abstinence, don't underestimate the power of self-compassion. To cope with the psychological shifts, I've found a few strategies helpful. Journaling has been a fantastic outlet for processing my feelings, whether they're positive or challenging. I've also actively sought out healthy, non-romantic forms of connection – spending quality time with friends, engaging in community activities, and yes, actively seeking out those comforting hugs from trusted loved ones. It's about building a strong support system and finding alternative ways to feel connected and loved. It's a unique experience for everyone, but understanding the psychological landscape has definitely made my journey more manageable and enriching.

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I literally just talked to my son about how human contact or companionship is super important. He has been struggling with social life and I’m not quite sure why. As his mom I want so much for him and it’s hard because I can tell he’s struggling somewhere I just don’t know why.

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