this is a relatively small app compared to the social media giants like tiktok and instagram, so i inevitably get posts from others i don’t agree with.
being a lesbian is who i am, and ive known enough gay christians in my life to realize being gay isn’t a sin, and im so tired of seeing people be openly homophobic, and not even in a “hate the sin love the sinner” kind of way (although im not too happy about that either).
i’ve decided it’s easier if i just block these folks so they won’t show up in my feed and they (hopefully!) won’t find me. i’m not going to let random strangers tell me im supposed to feel guilty over who i’m attracted to or how i identify. goodbye homophobes 😘
... Read moreIt's so important to understand what homophobia truly means, especially when we encounter it online. Homophobia isn't just outright hate; it's a spectrum of negative attitudes and feelings towards homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. This can range from prejudice and discrimination to hostility, discomfort, or even fear. Sometimes it's subtle, like microaggressions, and other times it's overt and hurtful, making online spaces feel unsafe. Understanding this definition helps us recognize these behaviors and address them, even if it's just for our own well-being.
When I started seeing these hateful comments, it really made me reflect. As someone who identifies as lesbian and genderfluid, I know firsthand how exhausting it is to constantly defend your existence. It's not just about disagreeing; it's about denying someone's entire identity and worth. That's why setting boundaries, like blocking, isn't just about avoiding conflict – it's a vital act of self-preservation. It’s about protecting your peace and mental health. You don't have to engage with negativity that aims to invalidate who you are.
Being online, you meet people from all walks of life, and sometimes, unfortunately, you encounter those who hold outdated or harmful beliefs. For me, seeing comments that twist religious texts to justify hate, especially when I know so many wonderful gay Christians, just feels particularly unfair. It reinforces the idea that some people believe being gay is a choice or a sin, when for me, it's just who I am. My identity, my reddish-brown hair, my piercings, my tattoos – none of these external expressions define my worth or make me any less deserving of respect. It’s crucial to remember that personal appearance or lifestyle, like being genderfluid or lesbian, should never be a target for prejudice.
Creating a safe online environment isn't just the platform's job; it's something we can actively contribute to for ourselves. Deciding to block someone who is openly homophobic is a way to curate your feed into a space that uplifts and validates you, rather than tearing you down. It empowers you to take control of your digital experience. If you’re feeling tired of encountering negativity, remember that you have the power to mute, unfollow, and block, building your own supportive corner of the internet. It's about recognizing that your peace is paramount, and you don't owe anyone your emotional labor if they're not willing to offer basic respect. Building these personal boundaries allows us to focus on positive connections and content, fostering a more affirming online presence for ourselves and others in the LGBTQ+ community.
Blocking them is your best, and often only, option. The more “Christian” they are, the more hateful they are.