Horses grieve.

Not loudly. Not dramatically.

But deeply.

Today I sat with him in the quiet where his friend should’ve been—because grief doesn’t need fixing. It needs company. ❤️🐎 #horsegirl #griefandloss #griefjourney #horsetok

2025/12/23 Edited to

... Read moreIt's incredible how deeply horses feel, isn't it? After experiencing my own horse's journey through loss, I realized just how much they form deep bonds and attachments, very much like us. When they lose a pasture mate or a beloved companion, their grief can be profound, even if it's not always expressed in ways we immediately recognize. Witnessing their quiet sorrow can be heartbreaking, yet it's a powerful reminder of their complex emotional lives. So, how do you know if your horse is grieving? It's not always as obvious as a human crying, but there are subtle yet significant changes in behavior to watch for. Increased lethargy, a noticeable loss of appetite, or a disinterest in their usual activities are common signs. Some horses might become withdrawn, standing alone in the pasture for extended periods, almost as if lost in thought. Others might become more agitated, restless, or vocal, whinnying more often or seeming generally unsettled. They might even display signs of separation anxiety if they were particularly bonded with the lost companion, struggling when left alone. Just like people, horses can co-regulate, finding comfort and stability in the presence of others, so the absence of that familiar presence can be deeply unsettling for their emotional and even physical well-being. Supporting a grieving horse isn't about 'fixing' their sadness or trying to make it disappear instantly. Instead, it's about being present and providing a stable, comforting, and understanding environment. Maintaining a consistent routine can be incredibly helpful during this time; predictability offers a sense of security when their world feels uncertain. Offering extra companionship, whether it's simply sitting with them quietly for an extended period, gentle grooming sessions, or just being in their presence without demanding anything, can make a huge difference. As the original post beautifully highlights, sometimes you just need a friend to sit with you, sharing the quiet space of sorrow without judgment or expectation. Gentle movement can also be incredibly therapeutic. I've found that movement is medicine, helping to release tension and provide a healthy, albeit temporary, distraction. Short, calm walks, hand-grazing in a quiet spot, or light lunging can encourage them to engage with their surroundings and move their bodies without putting too much pressure on them. Always ensure it's at their pace, and if they resist, don't force it. The goal is gentle encouragement, not added stress. It's also crucially important to ensure they're eating and drinking adequately. A significant decline in appetite or any other concerning physical symptoms should always prompt a call to your veterinarian. They can rule out any underlying health issues and offer advice on nutritional support. Sometimes, introducing a new, calm, and compatible companion after a period of adjustment can help fill the void, but this should be approached thoughtfully and slowly, ensuring the new pairing is a good fit. Ultimately, every horse grieves differently, and patience, understanding, and consistent, gentle care are key. Sharing these profound moments, even the quiet, painful ones, truly honors the incredible, deep bonds we share with these magnificent animals and helps them navigate their journey through loss.

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I am so sorry for your loss!🫰😇💯🙏🥰❤️😇

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What a sweet soul 🥰 We lost our 34yr old mare this year and her pasture mate Gus has been struggling with the loss right with us. Thankfully he will be getting himself a new pasture mate this week.

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