I worked with a married couple back when I worked for AOL in Oklahoma. Yes, AOL. This was before Google took over the world and before half of y'all were asking GPS for directions. 🤣
Back then, I was about 28 and thought relationships were simple.
You like football? Check.
You like comic books? Check.
You love Jesus? Double check.
In my mind, that was all you needed.
Then life sat me down like an elder deacon catching somebody cutting up in the church parking lot.
This couple seemed perfect. Same hobbies. Same friends. Same restaurants. If one sneezed, the other was already saying, "Bless you."
At first, it looked cute.
A few months later, they were getting on each other's last sanctified nerve.
One day the husband told me, "Brother, if she asks me one more question during this game, I'm moving to Nineveh."
The next week his wife said, "If this man shows me one more football statistic, I'm going to lay hands on him... and it won't be for prayer."
I almost fell out laughing, but they taught me something.
Just because two magnets attract doesn't mean they stop being individual magnets. They come together, but they don't lose their identity.
The same is true in friendships, dating, and relationships. God never intended for people to become carbon copies of each other. Adam wasn't talking to another Adam. God created Eve. Different strengths. Different perspectives. Different personalities. Same God.
That's why healthy relationships need breathing room.
Sometimes she needs a girls' night where nobody discusses fantasy football.
Sometimes the fellas need a kickback where nobody questions why we need three grills, four coolers, and enough food to feed a small nation.
People need space to grow, learn, recharge, and enjoy their own interests.
A relationship built only on common interests eventually runs out of conversation. But one built on faith, respect, purpose, and healthy boundaries keeps growing.
Even Jesus stepped away from the crowds to spend time with the Father. If Jesus needed space, what makes us think we can be attached at the hip 24/7?
Spend time together. Build memories. But every now and then, let her hang with the girls and let the fellas fire up the grill.
Trust me. Everybody comes back happier... and with far fewer reasons to lay hands on somebody. 😂


























































