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My mother's "Why?" is the toughest😭✨

My mother's "Why?" is the hardest 😢

That story 👇

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Thank you for watching the video ✨

When my father died, I received a pension for my mother.

Every day I work on various procedures.

No matter how much I move,

Procedures for the money my mother gets.

I don't get a single yen myself.

And yet, my mother, who had a little cognitive decline,

"Why are you tired?"

Why are you so busy?

I'm gonna be told 💦

I know there's no offense, but...

Every time I'm told, it's very stressful as a daughter.

This is the real stress of nursing.

I feel like I have nowhere to do it 🥹

There are difficulties in the procedure, but it is not transmitted to relatives

Passing each other is the most heartbreaking...

👇 question for everyone!

When do you feel "this is the most difficult..." when taking care of nursing care or family?

Please let me know in the comments ✨

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6/14 Edited to

... Read more親の介護は、手続きの煩雑さや介護そのものの負担だけでなく、家族間のコミュニケーションギャップによる心の疲労が非常に大きいと実感しています。特に認知症や認知機能が低下している親の場合、本人は悪気がなくても理解が追いつかず、こちらの状況を正確に把握できないため「なぜそんなに忙しいの?」「なぜ疲れてるの?」と何度も質問されることがあります。私も、父の死後、遺族年金などの手続きを母のために一生懸命行っていましたが、母からの「なぜ?」の連続に心が折れそうになりました。 こうした言葉がストレスになるのは、まさに「介護のリアル」です。本人に悪意がないとはいえ、疲れや忙しさを理解してもらえない孤独感はとても辛いものです。私の場合、家族や介護者同士で小さな確認ミーティングを持つ、あるいは第三者のケアマネジャーや専門家に相談して気持ちを共有することで、自分の負担感を少しだけ軽減できました。また、介護の合間に自分のための時間を意図的に作ることも重要です。息抜きをして気持ちを切り替えることで、「母のなぜ?」への反応も少し穏やかにできるようになりました。 さらに、認知機能が落ちている親とのコミュニケーションで意識したのは、短く簡単に何度でも説明すること、声のトーンを優しく保つこと、そして感情的にならずに冷静さを保つことです。介護のストレスは手続きの複雑さや物理的な負担だけでなく、こうした心のすれ違いにこそ大きな原因があると感じています。皆さんの体験や工夫もぜひ聞かせていただきたいです。

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