"We hate someone before we know his identity."
"We hate someone before we know his identity."
Side Stories: Perspective Problems through Narratives from Other People's Mouth
1) You# Janie Tien Pho SuwanAnd# High cornLive came out to talk about misunderstandings in each other, causing them to dislike each other because they were spun from a friend to hate each other, causing them to not talk to each other with a strong image, so they both did not approach each other to be close and knew that they were cute, did not have anything bad, became closer and got along very well, but the corn hybrid was brought to tell the dislike of the same friend...From Live, this talk brings us back to our lives that we always find something like this, just how we defend and what kind of life we live.
2) The first is First Impressions of everyone around us. Open up first. Don't just take the hate bias that comes from listening to those around you in your heart, even if you listen to something. Just be informed, but don't decide. Give yourself a chance to get to know the person in front until we are sure what kind of person they are.
3) A person's dislike for anyone does not mean that we can meet the same or feel the same way about him, because people are good or bad for anyone. It depends on who that person is. It is like our lives. We will do good to people who are good to us and not cute to people who are not cute to us. People who are not cute in other people's stories do not mean that they will be like us.
4) No matter who can be the "culprit" in other people's stories, what society needs is "judgment," because a fraction of someone's displeasure is making this person the culprit. It is each person's experience that meets different people. The culprit in other people's stories may be only normal to that person, because people already have good and negative sides in themselves. No one is perfect, only people pick up other people's stories to gossip.
5) Even if the real self is 10% evil, 90% good, but it can be said that 90% evil is almost impossible to find good, it can be a spin, a big spread of the story, even if the truth is different. Believing other people's words without their own judgment is like Buddha's 10 principles. We just don't have our own ideas and may be overwhelmed by gossip.
6) In fact, the person we should be the furthest away is "the person who gossips about others" because it always makes us accept negative power on us. From our bright days, we have to be aware of the bad things of each other with fun. And it also destroys our habits / identity to be a worse person. Because even though we don't like being gossiped, we are in a group of people who gossip. We are doing what we hate. How can we be good?
7) Why we should not listen to gossip about others and should not believe 100% because we never know the intentions of the narrator.
- Some people gossip about others because they're jealous of them.
- Some people just want the center of love to be on themselves, to be hated, to make people trust themselves, to be accepted.
- Some people choose to make people hate each other so that they don't talk to each other and exploit that hatred because not having a lover makes them say anything that no one believes, the easier it is to use this weakness to hurt people.
8) Remind yourself not to be soft-hearted, then touch one's self from your heart, from your experience, and decide for yourself whether he works or not, works with our relationship, he is not good with others, but if he is good to us, it is the end, and the person who looks strong honestly may have nothing. Just the look and the external presentation may not be impressive, but give time to prove a better person than to hurry to tell who he is, despite not knowing him.
9) Listening to him comes and we believe, not because we are stupid, but because we value trust, but people's hearts are difficult to read, and some people have advanced psychological strategies. The people we see may not be what we see, and some have many other people's stories to make themselves look good, but to stretch out everyone around them to make others look lower than themselves, perhaps their mental knots, who want to be interested and want to be above others. Someone uses psychology with people to create "Lobbying Strategy" to listen to themselves alone. The intention is for people not to listen to others, want to control others, build communication power. To yourself, and to try to build trust in yourself, and that is the insincerity of gossips. Be careful to bring it close to yourself.
10) No one is perfect, there is good, bad mixed up, believe that we just meet people who turn their good sides to each other, can accept each other, can not just disperse, but do not listen to anyone, because no one is 100% good, if they are good to us, even if they are not perfect, but they are not dangerous, they are close, we are happy, comfortable, and close to whom our lives are better, it ends with our own experience, not anyone's place, take us as "with whom is the temperature of our lives?" If we're cool, let's go on. But whenever we find it, it's hot, it's hot, it's bad for us. It's not happy, it's just to get away. We can answer ourselves. Don't let other people's words influence our lives that much.
We are not very good people. We must be gossiped and still believe every gossip?
"Real life is like a drama, but it can be more brutal, adaptable, choose who is in a good environment, who is uncomfortable, who likes to tell what creates rubbish in his heart, and cut it off. Life is more peaceful."
หลายคนอาจเคยรู้สึกเหมือนตัวเองไม่เคยมีใจให้ใครมาก่อน หรือยังกังวลกับความรู้สึกว่าควรเปิดใจให้ใครหรือไม่ จากเรื่องราวของเจนี่และไฮโซข้าวโพด ทำให้เห็นว่าการเปิดใจในความสัมพันธ์เป็นเรื่องสำคัญมาก โดยเฉพาะเมื่อใจเราไม่ได้ถูกครอบงำด้วยคำพูดจากคนรอบข้างหรือเรื่องเล่าที่อาจมีจุดประสงค์แอบแฝง ในชีวิตจริงเราอาจเผชิญกับความไม่เข้าใจหรือการตัดสินใจที่รวดเร็วจากคนอื่น จนทำให้ใจเราปิดกั้นที่จะรับความรู้สึกดีๆ กับใครสักคน หรือรู้สึกว่าใครก็ไม่น่าไว้ใจ แต่ถ้าได้ลองเปิดใจและเปิดโอกาสให้กับการรู้จักตัวตนจริงๆ โดยไม่ยึดติดกับคำตัดสินของผู้อื่น เราจะได้ความสัมพันธ์ที่ดีขึ้น ซึ่งส่งผลต่อความสุขใจและความสบายใจอย่างแท้จริง นอกจากนี้ การเรียนรู้ที่จะใช้วิจารณญาณส่วนตัวในการฟังเรื่องราวของผู้อื่นก็มีความสำคัญมาก อย่าเพิ่งเชื่อทุกคำพูดหรือเรื่องเล่าที่ได้ยิน เพราะบางครั้งคำพูดเหล่านั้นอาจถูกบิดเบือนหรือถูกใช้เพื่อผลประโยชน์อย่างใดอย่างหนึ่ง การระวังไม่ให้ตัวเองถูกครอบงำด้วยพลังลบหรือคำวิจารณ์ที่ไม่มีมูล จะช่วยให้เราสามารถตั้งใจสร้างความสัมพันธ์ที่เหมาะสมกับคนที่อยู่รอบตัว หรือแม้แต่รู้จักเลือกปฏิเสธคนที่สร้างปัญหาในการใช้ชีวิตให้สงบขึ้น สุดท้ายนี้ หากรู้สึกว่าไม่เคยมีใจให้ใครมาก่อน ก็มองว่าเป็นการเปิดโอกาสให้ตัวเองได้เรียนรู้และเติบโตทางอารมณ์ เพื่อค้นพบว่าแท้จริงแล้วใครคือคนที่ทำให้หัวใจเราสบายใจและยอมรับได้ในแบบที่เขาเป็น โดยไม่ต้องยึดยุดตามคำพูดของคนอื่น และอย่าลืมว่าความดีและความไม่ดีคือเรื่องปกติของมนุษย์ทุกคน อยู่ที่เราจะเลือกมองและสัมผัสอย่างไรเท่านั้น
