From heartbreaks to husband 💔🤵🏻- the turning point
My mum had been nudging me for years to get my own place. As I approached 35, I finally decided, it was time. In the same way that I run my life, the same applied to finding a new home: 8 viewings in 3 months & I found my home, my pink place 🏰
Truth being told, when I made the move to live alone, I wasn’t ready to be single for life yet. I was still going on dates, still hoping to find a life partner.
After one too many heartbreaks💔, something clicked.
🌟 I am enough💡
Yes, life might be sweeter 🍭 with someone by my side, why was I wasting time waiting for that someone to appear? I should be leading my life to the fullest as I have always done so. My life has never stopped for anyone ✋🏼 even more so now, NO reason to do so.
🌟 I quit the dating apps, all of them 🚫
🌟 I started enjoying my space
Drinking🍺 on my own at home became my new favourite ritual (cheaper & safer than bars, isn’t it).
The peace and quiet? Priceless 😉
🌟 Then came my first solo trip 🏝️
I had just ended things with someone, ironically during our first overseas trip.
It hit me midway through: this would be our first and last trip together 💔
So, as a form of post-breakup therapy, I booked a solo birthday trip the very next month 🧳
🌍 I LOVED it. More than I expected 😍
Freedom tasted amazing 🤩
One of my male clients once asked, “Why do you stay alone, travel alone? What’s wrong with you? Isn’t it shiok to come home to home cooked meals 🥘 freshy laundered clothes 👔?”
Precisely you are the kind of men whom I have been avoiding 🙄 When will we truly grow up when we are still living under our parents’ wings? I value my independence & freedom. It takes confidence and clarity to know what you want and to go for it 💪🏼
Even my mum (liberal as she is in many ways) asked if I felt safe traveling solo as a female.
My answer to her was, “What if this is my life for the rest of my life? I need to get used to doing things on my own now while I’m still adaptable. Waiting till I’m 50 to figure this out? That would be way harder.” She never questioned it again 😏
I have my own home 🏡
I earn my own keep👩🏻💼
I don’t need anyone who makes me feel small or isn’t on the same page.
Every time a new date went well 👩🏻❤️💋👨🏻, I would nudge in the question:
“Where is this going?”
Most of the time, the answer was:
“I enjoy your company... but I’m not ready to settle down.”
Well, there it was in my face 🤦🏻♀️ here we go again, just when things are looking rosy 🌹 Back to the drawing board.
So I moved on, time and again and again. My heart was so tired, I was emotionally drained.
No more wasting time, energy, or emotions on unclear intentions 🙅🏻♀️
🌟 I learned to live on my terms.
Eat whatever I want 🍕🍟🍜🍤🦪
Come home whenever I want 🕐
Clean how and when I want 🧽🪣
Wake up whatever time I want ⏰
No restrictions. No rules 🚫 No need to pretend to be strong when I felt like crying 😭 No need to have to lend an obligatory listening ear👂🏼to others when all I want to do is to sit in silence & allow the peace & quietness to serenade me after a long day’s work.
And then, just like that, he appeared.
Not from an app.
Not through friends.
Not at an event.
Just like that, the most unexpected place… through work.
When I was no longer chasing, no longer waiting, no longer needing; he showed up.
💖 Sometimes, the turning point comes when you stop waiting and start living. The right things fall into place when you’re truly whole on your own.
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