When you hit a nanny, how should our parents deal?

Young children are angry and hit is a sign that you are not in control of your emotions. It is good to be angry as a child to take the opportunity to learn to manage your emotions.

# Why do children hit

Children hit not because they "want to hurt," but because they still can't control their emotions and communicate with words.

So children use their hands to express their emotions immediately. Children usually try negative and positive behaviors to see how they can affect, whether they can or not. Or maybe if they see people around them using beatings, such as parents still beating children or beating each other, children may think that it is the way to handle normal problems.

# How to fix

• Conscious yourself first, take care of yourself, eat, sleep, when the incident takes a deep breath, calm yourself, do not peed.

• Stop the child immediately when to hit. Notice when the child usually hits. We can guess. Do not stop before the scene, but wait for it to happen. Hurry and catch it and say briefly, such as "do not hit the mother, hit the pillow instead." Hold the child's hand to hit the pillow.

• If the child turns to hit us or hit himself, then hold him out of action, and briefly say, "Now I'm in trouble to control myself, my father will help." If you continue to cry, then cry. My parents calm themselves, not to hurt, but to help.

• Wait calm before talking. If the child struggles less, ask "whether to control himself or to let his mother catch him." The child often chooses to let himself go.

Finally, the baby is still, and we'll talk about what happened, and the sequence of events will bring the brain back to work.

• Teach me an alternative to beating. "I was angry because... when I was angry, I didn't hit myself, didn't hit other people or my belongings. Do you like your mother to catch it? If you don't like it, the next day you have to do something else? Think. What can I do instead?"

• Parents may exhale deeply with their children 10 times. When the child peeps "breathe with the mother 10 times, the mother will let go." Breathing slowly, deeply, exhale long, requires control, it can cool us down.

• Repeat every time hit → catch → calm → release → rebound → catch During that, do not talk much, do not make eye contact when children behave badly, does not mean cold, grimace, you can not be angry now.

# Do the same everyoneConsistently, this is the most important thing. Pat, school is easy to solve, can solve all behaviors because everyone does the same, but at home it's not like that.

People in the house have a mismatch, uncontrollable, causing children to try and try again, not recovered from behavior.

If you find that you can't stay at school, stay at home, come back and see what's different, what's at school, what's at home, what's at home, and you learn from the environment around you.

If the school has clear rules, the teacher sets boundaries consistently, the child knows that he is angry or dissatisfied, cannot hit anyone, so he learns to control his emotions and find alternatives to expression.

But at home, if there are many people, nannies without power, or parents / grandparents who do not dare to interrupt, the child knows that he can do this, and it is easier, he will.

# Teach children well # Manage negative emotions