What do you think of this?
It's about my parents-in-law.
My husband's parents live far away.
Last week my husband's parents suddenly came here (our place) for a trip
I don't know what day I will come here, I don't know if I will stay at home or not,、、
Even if I checked with my husband, "I do not know what will happen because it is about those people, and I will not say clearly even if I ask my mother, so please be patient if you stay!"、、
As for me, I was staying when I came here until now,
(We are a family of six until last year, and the upper two children's lunch boxes and the lower two children go to school after 7 o'clock in the morning, so breakfast and morning preparation and lunch making until then, and when my parents-in-law come, make a solid breakfast Grilled fish, fried egg, miso soup, salad, fruit, meat-based stir-fry, etc.、、(I am self-employed and full-time from 8 am to 7 pm!)
When I stayed last year ↑ It was like this situation
The time of the bath also changes as usual, and if it becomes 2 hours later than usual, fatigue remains on the next day,、、
After my parents-in-law returned last time, I got sick
Since the two older children got a job from this year, the number of people has decreased, but the things I have to do are the same except for not making lunch, so it is already the limit!
I may not be able to say such a thing,
People who do not know when they will come! Free and carefree people!
It is already the limit to prepare futons and meals for!
I work alone, so I can't get sick (because it bothers customers)
What do you think of insensitive parents-in-law?
My parents-in-law said, "Don't worry about it!"
It seems like it, but I always get irritated by that insensitive place
My father-in-law wakes up at 3 am for a walk, comes home after 5 am for a shower, and has a breakfast routine around 6 am
If you don't make breakfast by hand, when my parents-in-law returned home,、、It seems to spread it to my mother-in-law's friends.
I've endured it until now when I heard it, but I'm already at my limit!
Our family also went to Tokyo in the distance in this April, but the two older children got a job, but since we have not done anything yet,
The place where my parents-in-law slept last time also has a big luggage
It's too much to think about cleaning up
It seems to come here in two days and it's really depressing
Is there no choice but to endure?
Is this normal?
I wrote a lot.
If you have any good advice, please let me know.
私も義理両親との距離感に悩んだ経験があります。特に、突然の訪問や行動計画が曖昧な場合、こちらの生活リズムを崩されることで大きな負担を感じてしまいます。家族のために手料理を準備し、ふと自分の健康や、仕事の影響を考えると心が疲れてしまいますよね。 私が実践したのは、まず夫としっかり話し合い義理両親の意思と予定をできるだけ早く正確に把握すること。コミュニケーションのズレを減らすためにも夫を通すようにすると、いきなりの訪問が減り、準備の心構えができます。 また、義理両親にはこちらの状況もきちんと伝え、「いつも通りの対応は難しい」と正直な気持ちを伝えることが大切です。相手も理解してくれれば、自由気ままな振る舞いも多少落ち着き心の負担が軽減しました。 さらに、自営業の忙しさや体調管理の重要性を説明し、なるべく訪問時の負担を少なくするために簡潔な準備でも良いことを提案。無理に完璧を目指さず自分の生活リズムを守ることを優先にしました。 義理両親との関係では「我慢」や「耐える」ばかりでなく、協力し合える対話が必須です。小さな不満も溜めず適切に伝えてお互いが歩み寄ることが長期的には精神的にも楽になります。 家族のために頑張る一方で、あなた自身の健康と心の余裕も守ってくださいね。周囲 の助けも借りて、無理のない付き合い方を模索しましょう。
