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Was I too harsh for leaving after she didn’t come

I drive a small Honda Accord and usually give my friend a ride to work since we live nearby and start around the same time. We agreed she’d chip in for gas every two weeks, and it worked fine at first.

But after the first month, she started running late constantly. I’d text “I’m outside,” and she’d take 10–15 minutes to come out, sometimes longer. I kept being late to work, and my boss noticed. So last Friday, I told her clearly I could only wait five minutes.

I pulled up, texted “here,” and after five minutes with no sign of her (and no answer when I called), I left. Fifteen minutes later, she blew up my phone saying I “abandoned” her and made her walk in the heat. Now she’s not talking to me, and a mutual friend says I was being “too rigid.”

Am I being too harsh to my friend? Should I do something to change that situation?

#friendship #friends #AskLemon8 #letschat #exfriend

2025/10/15 Edited to

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you are not being harsh or rude. I had a coworker that did that, not as bad as that. I didn't charge her for gas because I thought I was helping her, she had 5 kid's. I'm reluctant to do it again. You can only help people so far, when they start abusing you, bye

No you're not too harsh. If anything, your friend is taking advantage of you and you're suffering the consequences of their actions. If they can't, appreciate your kindness and be respectful and come out on time or before you show up, I would tell them to find a different way to get to work. Just my opinion 😊

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