Should I be offended or take it as a compliment?¿?
So 2 days ago at Bar Louie in Chesterfield,MO a waitress approve my sister and I ID then said can you leave your IDs out so the managers can double check because that facility has been slipping on the ID check. I guess they letting certain people drink that are under age …according to a manager my sister & I IDS don’t match up so they refuse to serve us any alcohol Idk what that mean when I know our stuff is official we decided to leave and went on to go spend our $$$ else where sorry we don’t look 32 and 27 I guess
…. some people laughed at it and was like take it as a compliment but it really offended us. Like she made it seem our stuff was fake her exact words was things aren’t matching up. Wtf that means and said we have the right to refuse service. Now she did say we can stay have the food and just order lemonade/soda but at that point, I didn’t want them making my food and the main reason we went there was to try the holiday drinks. This was actually our first time ever going to a bar Louie we drive by it all the time I work down the street from it just happen to be in the area shopping and we decided to stop there for a quick bite and a quick drink. Just to not get any of that there. I’m still waiting on a response from a general manager/higher up.
If they’re gonna be strict on checking IDs, at least have an official scanner
It's such a common dilemma when you're told you look too young for your age, especially when it involves something as official as an ID check! On the one hand, being told you have a youthful glow or that you could pass for someone years younger can definitely feel like a compliment. Who doesn't want to hear that their skincare routine is paying off, or that they just have naturally good genes? It’s a wonderful thing to be told you're aging gracefully, or not at all! However, the situation can quickly flip from a flattering remark to a truly frustrating and offensive experience, just like what happened at Bar Louie. When an ID check transforms into an accusation of using a fake ID, or when you're denied service despite presenting valid, official documents, that's where the 'compliment' aspect completely disappears. It's not just about looking young anymore; it's about being treated with suspicion and disrespect. That feeling of having your integrity questioned, or seeing that concerned expression from staff implying you're lying, can really sting and ruin your entire evening. Many of us have been there – wondering if we should just brush it off or if our feelings of annoyance are valid. It's incredibly inconvenient and embarrassing to be singled out, especially when you're out to relax with family or friends. The implication that your legitimate identification isn't 'matching up' because you don't fit someone's visual stereotype of a 30-something is simply unfair. Bars and restaurants have a crucial responsibility to check IDs, but they also have a responsibility to do so professionally, efficiently, and with reliable tools, like an official scanner. This would minimize these awkward and often offensive encounters. If you ever find yourself in a similar dilemma, remember that your feelings are valid. You can politely ask for clarification, understand the specific reason for denial, and if you feel truly wronged, it's okay to contact management or leave a constructive review. Advocating for yourself in a calm manner can sometimes lead to a resolution or at least prevent similar situations for others. It’s a delicate line between accepting a compliment and standing up for fair treatment, but knowing when to do which is key. What are your stories? Have you ever felt more offended than complimented during an ID check because you 'looked too young'?
i would take it as a compliment that means you look younger than you are, which you do girl you look 18 years old there no way, your skin is amazing! but yeah i would not go there again because wtf you mean they don’t have a scanner