Ranting about my dad
So my dad is the kind of dad that expects everything to go his way and when it doesn't im his target . so today I got woken up by my dad screaming my name at 7:00 in the morning to come make him food, so me and my brother share chores and today was his day so I told my dad today was my brothers turn and he says that my brother is sleeping that I should do it and my brother was not sleeping he was on his phone so I said no my brother is awake on his phone and my dad said your a woman you should cook and clean so I say being a woman has nothing to do with it and he slaps me and says don't talk back to me so I just kept quiet. things like this have been going on for a few years now and I would always cry and not talk to anyone when he slaps me so a few weeks ago I made a promise to myself that I won't cry for any man especially men like my father so I kept that promise and this time my dad noticed after he slapped me I didn't cry so any little thing I did he would slap me till i cried like when I was washing plates I accidentally knocked a glass down and it didn't break but he slapped me for that. so after I was done making him food I went upstairs to my room to lie down and like 2 seconds later he calls me again I answer but since I have a cold I didn't want to strain my voice so when I get downstairs he slaps me and asks me why I didn't answer him I say I did and he says don't lie to me so I just apologise and I asked him why he called me and he didn't even remember why so i just left. so at that point my mood was already shattered I didn't have any motivation to do anything so i just stayed in my room and when I came downstairs the first thing my mom says to me is "your always so angry like your acting like someone did something to you" and when I tell her why she says I'm overreacting. sometimes I wish I have different parents but sometimes I wish I don't have different parents.
Growing up in a household where expectations are rigid and discipline harsh can be emotionally draining. From my experience, it's important to recognize that such behavior is not a reflection of your worth but often stems from the other person's unresolved issues or cultural beliefs. One way I have coped is by setting personal boundaries, even if they feel small. For instance, when my dad demands chores unfairly, I try to explain calmly and stand firm if possible. It’s not easy, but protecting your mental peace is crucial. Another step I took was confiding in a trusted friend or writing down my feelings to process the pain instead of bottling it up. This helped me realize I’m not alone and my feelings are valid. I also learned the importance of self-care—whether it's taking quiet moments alone, engaging in hobbies, or seeking support from supportive family members or communities online. These small acts nurture strength and hope. If you’re going through something similar, know that your emotions matter and you deserve respect and kindness, no matter your gender or role in the family. Remember, standing up for yourself and seeking support is a sign of courage, not weakness.
