Healing is Lonely- no one talks about it
I went through two pretty mind altering relationships from 17-20 and my childhood wasn’t full of too much light either. I was single up until recently, now 22, and I tend to reflect on my time being single.
It took falling on my face for awhile but I soon accepted my yearning to be loved and found the self love I had always wanted. I realized the partners I attracted in my healing era were really just to teach me more about myself.
Why would the universe bring my forever partner if I wasn’t ready for them?
I started retreating more and more inward. More time at work, more time at the gym, more time with friends who cared for me, more time on the things that really mattered.
But all of this was still done alone. No one really having my back or concerned with how late I would be out or where I was going. It was just me for once and at first it was scary because I felt unprotected but then I built a relationship with God and then it became exhilarating and I realized I wouldn’t trade this feeling of loneliness for just anyone. I realized my person that I’d be with would have to let me be this lonely as we spent forever together.
I now have someone else to care about, my new boyfriend, and it now becomes me trying to find the time to become lonely again.
Lonely can be the best thing that ever happened to you.
Healing can be an isolating experience, yet it's a vital part of personal growth. During times of loneliness, individuals often discover deeper insights about themselves, fostering self-love and preparation for future relationships. It's common to feel unprotected initially, but building resilience through solitude can lead to profound personal transformation. In various psychological studies, solitude has been linked to increased creativity and self-awareness. Journaling or engaging in creative activities during alone time can help individuals process their emotions and reflect on their past experiences, leading to clearer ideas about future partnerships. Furthermore, connecting with spirituality during these times can provide comfort and clarity. Many people find solace in building a relationship with God or engaging in meditation, which encourages mindfulness and emotional regulation. As relationships evolve, maintaining a balance between togetherness and personal space becomes essential. The experience of being alone can nurture the ability to connect more deeply with others. Embracing moments of solitude doesn’t signify loneliness; instead, it can manifest as a secure foundation for meaningful connections. Ultimately, the journey through healing and solitude can reveal that being lonely might, in fact, be what one needs to grow and thrive.