Marriage is not about you ultimately

My journey through marriage has truly opened my eyes to a profound truth: it's not ultimately about me, my desires, or my expectations. When I first got married, I, like many, harbored a vision of what my perfect married life would look like, often centered on my own fulfillment. But through various seasons, challenges, and joys, I've come to understand that marriage, at its core, is about something far greater, something divine. It’s about YAHWEH's way, not just 'Your Way.' This realization was a game-changer for me. Instead of constantly asking, 'What am I getting out of this marriage?' I started asking, 'How can my marriage glorify God?' This shift in perspective, moving from a self-centered view to a God-centered one, brought an incredible sense of peace and purpose. It’s God who loves our marriage, stands behind it, and truly perseveres it through every storm. His grace is the unseen force that holds everything together, even when we feel like giving up. For my fellow sisters in Christ, the journey often involves understanding our unique role. I've personally wrestled with the concept of being a 'helper' and what 'submission' truly means in a modern context. Yet, through prayer and studying God's word, I’ve realized it's a powerful tool in the hands of the Lord. As 1 Peter 3 says, wives can win their husbands 'without a word by observing your pure and reverent life.' This isn't about being passive; it's about being a living testament to Christ, radiating His love and grace. Could it be that for some husbands, you are the only Jesus they may truly experience in such an intimate way? It’s a calling to partner with Him, to walk with Him, and to work with Him in our marriages. This means inviting God into every decision, every conflict, every joy, and every sorrow. It means letting go of our need to control and instead learning the 'unforced rhythm of grace.' I've found that when I surrender my expectations and trust in the Lord's plan for my marriage, things flow more harmoniously. It's not about striving to be 'Jesus Jr' and fixing everything ourselves, but rather allowing God to work through us, touching the heart of our spouse. This principle applies to both partners. When both husband and wife are seeking God's will and striving to live a life that honors Him, the marriage becomes a powerful testimony. It's a journey of continuous growth, forgiveness, and unconditional love, all rooted in God's unending grace. If you're struggling to figure out what a God-centered marriage looks like for you, remember that you're not alone. Seeking wisdom, praying together, and leaning into God's word can provide the guidance you need to build a union that truly reflects His love.