this book destroyed me so here’s my opinion on it

oh my goodness this book was so sad but also an amazing example of being a teenager in love and experiencing all the new feelings and things that you experience and are hard to deal with as a teenager ⭐️Overall rating:4.5 /5: as a teen this was a very relatable book in certain aspects. #springbreak #booktok #ifhehadbeenwithme

2024/3/31 Edited to

... Read moreOkay, so let's get into the nitty-gritty of 'If He Had Been With Me' by Laura Nowlin, especially since I know many of you are wondering about the age rating and those darker themes. As a teen who just went through it, I can tell you this book is profoundly impactful, but it definitely comes with some heavy topics. The OCR even picked up on the 'trigger warning for suicide and dark themes,' and it's essential to be aware of that going in. Is it appropriate for a 15-year-old? Personally, I think it depends on the individual. It beautifully captures the intensity of first love and the confusing emotions of being a teenager, which many can absolutely relate to. Laura Nowlin does an incredible job representing the complexities of young relationships, which was a huge 'pro' for me, as the OCR noted. However, it doesn't shy away from depicting grief, loss, and the aftermath of tragedy, including mentions of suicide. If you're sensitive to these topics, or if you're a parent considering it for your child, a discussion beforehand might be a good idea. It's not a light read, but it's incredibly honest and raw. Speaking of honesty, this book truly 'destroyed me' in the best and worst ways possible. From the very first page of 'If He Had Been With Me,' I was hooked by the raw, almost poetic way Laura Nowlin writes. There’s a certain magic to knowing the ending from the beginning, yet still being completely drawn into the characters' journey and hoping for a different outcome. The pain and sorrow felt so real, almost as if I was experiencing them alongside Autumn and Finn. It’s rare for a book to evoke such strong emotions, leaving you thinking about it long after you’ve turned the last page. The author truly makes you feel the weight of their choices and the tragic beauty of their young love, making it an unforgettable experience. This book made me feel everything, and that’s why it stuck with me so much. And for everyone curious about the 'book with two lollipops on cover,' it's such an iconic image, isn't it? That simple, almost innocent cover art belies the complex and heartbreaking story within. It's a clever visual that perfectly hints at the bittersweet nature of young love and the passage of time explored in the novel. It drew me in, and I think it's a big part of why the book stands out visually and emotionally. If you're looking for a profound and emotionally charged read that explores the depths of teenage love, loss, and the difficult journey of growing up, this book is for you – just be prepared for the emotional ride. It's a testament to Laura Nowlin's writing that such a simple premise can leave such a lasting impression, prompting me to instantly pick up 'If Only I Had Told Her'.

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