#3.) 4months pregnant by my Ex
Just as the two of us decided to try and work on our connection and build a healthy and fulfilling relationship his avoidant attachment issues and addiction rears its head.
Last night, after a beautiful day of operating as a unit towards a common goal, I receive a call 8pm he was checking on me quite chipper and excited just as he told me he would after leaving from visiting his mother(🙄) but I was talking to my parents. So after we were done talking I called him back but couldn’t get through. (10pm)
{this is particularly odd because he has no lights on at home …so what do you have to do besides…be on your phone}
After two hours I received another peculiar call from him frustratingly notifying me that he wasn’t in the mood for conversation…only 30 minutes later he calls again to tell me the same thing…😐🤔
ODD
What would make someone call twice about something that they don’t want to talk about …while bringing up that they don’t want to talk?
What the heck happened at your mom’s?
I ask him what was wrong and why his tone change from only just an hour before.
He tells me that he’s ruined his life in that hour in such a distressed tone that I began to fear for his mental health. He has access to weapons and I don’t feel like putting him in the ground with two toddlers and a baby on the way also I don’t have any life insurance on him… I try my best to sooth him but he gets explosively angry saying that he can’t trust me and that I would judge him.
I remain calm and ask vague unassuming questions trying to rule out physical harm or drunk driving or car issues as those usually set him off. He started to calm himself and gave yes or no answers
The thing that clued me in was I asked him if anyone hurt and he responded “not physically.”
I asked if he hurt them on purpose and he said no. I asked if what he did would hurt his daughters and after he said no I asked if what he did would hurt me and he said that the didn’t know.
He exploded telling me that I had pryed information out of him and said “since you wanna know so bad ,go get checked.”
😳💭”Tf?”
I said “what do we have?” He then told me that it’s none of my business and if I wanted to know I should go to the doctor.
I got quiet and he joked that he had aids…
I stayed quiet.
He told me what he actually had and then proceeded to tell me that in between the time he initially called me.
Pregnancy can amplify emotional situations, especially with unresolved issues in a relationship. It’s common to encounter communication challenges, particularly if one partner struggles with mental health or addiction. It’s crucial to maintain open dialogue to understand each other’s feelings. Establishing trust is key; expressing concerns should be done gently to avoid defensiveness. If your partner is exhibiting signs of distress, prioritize their safety and yours. Seek professional guidance, such as therapy, to navigate these challenges together. Support systems like friends and family can also provide essential emotional backing. It’s vital to set boundaries that protect both the unborn child and your mental health. Remember, the journey of pregnancy is not just physical but also deeply emotional; addressing these complexities can pave the way for a healthier family dynamic moving forward.
Yikes stds can harm and be given to your baby, staying with a man who’s willing to give you and your unborn child an std is just sad. Especially when he won’t even tell you what it is and jokes about. I’d leave him and focus on yourself and get checked. Fingers crossed it wasn’t given to the baby.