4 ways to manage "frustration" from becoming toxic in a relationship 🥺✨

You know, resentment is actually anger, because sometimes we don't dare to be angry, afraid to affect a relationship, or feel less powerful, so we choose to be "quiet" or hurt instead.

But keeping the frustration alive can unconsciously become irony or Silent Treatment!

4 ways to turn a distracted mood into a communication that saves a relationship. 👇

1.Scan yourself first: Are we angry or just scared?

Ask yourself, "What are we upset about now?"

Separate what we expect the other person to do and where negative emotions come from. Knowing your emotions will reduce your euphoria by half.

2. Stay calm (but don't be quiet, irony!)

If you're still hot or can't think of anything, ask for time to break out and organize your thoughts.

* * The important thing is to tell the other person that I will give you a moment to talk.

3. Communicate with "I-Message" instead of pruning.

Turn sarcastic words like "She never cared about us" into telling real emotions and needs.

Use the formula: [Tell the feeling] + [Tell the cause] + [Tell the desired]

👉 Example: "This makes us feel a little upset because we want her to pay more attention here..."

4. Flexible and accept differences

A good relationship doesn't mean we have to get 100% on everything. Let's open up to him about what the reason he's doing that is. Maybe he didn't mean to hurt his feelings.

So we can

A strong relationship is not a relationship that never has negative emotions, but a relationship where we dare to reveal it safely without hurting each other. ❤

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