I’d rather suffer than inconvenience anyone
I’ve spent most of my life trying to be as low-maintenance as possible. I never wanted to take up too much space, ask for too much, or be seen as “too sensitive.” But over time, that turned into a pattern where I’d rather sit in discomfort (physically or emotionally) than risk being a burden.
There was a moment I remember clearly: I was freezing cold in a public space and didn’t say a word. I just sat there, silently suffering. That’s when it hit me: why am I so scared to express basic needs?
I’ve been working on undoing this. It started with small things like speaking up when I need a break, asking to adjust the thermostat, or even saying “hey, that bothered me.” And yeah, it still feels awkward sometimes.
But each time I choose honesty over silence, I feel just a little more self-respecting. Learning to advocate for myself didn’t come naturally, but it’s slowly becoming part of how I show up for me.
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