“I wish I had friendships like this… 😮‍💨🤍”

Y’all… I read this during Christmas break and this book??

it gave me so much HOPE when it comes to love 😭🤍

Like I’m not even gonna lie…

at some point I felt like I was one of these women.

There was a time I was outside smiling, acting like my relationship was perfect…

but on the way home??

I was miserable 😮‍💨

And watching these women??

I realized something…

I wish I had friendships like this.

Real ones.

The kind where you can be honest… no pretending, no hiding.

Because I don’t really have that right now… and yeah, that hit me while reading this 👀

Ellie, Sloan, Courtney, and Shy been through EVERYTHING together…

Love, heartbreak, marriages, kids, mistakes…

but they always come back to each other.

And when they link back up for the holidays??

Baby… all the truth comes out.

Old wounds, real conversations, facing themselves…

ALL OF IT.

But what stood out the most??

That sisterhood.

Because when everything else is falling apart…

they still had each other.

This book is giving:

✨ real love (not the fake version)

✨ healing and growth

✨ friendship that holds you together

✨ and learning to be honest with yourself 😮‍💨

This one felt personal…

like it really made me sit and think.

If you’ve ever wished for real friendships like this…

yeah… this one is for you 🤍📚✨

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... Read moreReading 'Before the Streetlights Come On' by Ashley Antoinette felt like stepping into a mirror reflecting my own experiences with friendship and love. The way the story unfolds around Ellie, Sloan, Courtney, and Shy – women who have faced heartbreak, marriages, parenting, and mistakes yet remain united – truly emphasizes the power of genuine connections. I’ve often found myself putting on a brave face in relationships, pretending everything is perfect when, inside, I feel vulnerable and alone. This book highlighted that so many people share this hidden struggle, and it inspired me to crave honesty not just with others but with myself. One aspect that stood out was the honest portrayal of friendship as a healing force. True friends are not about perfection or facades; they are about showing up in your rawest moments and still choosing you. It made me reflect on my own friendships and the value of that kind of unconditional support, which often has been missing in my life. The holiday gathering scenes particularly resonated as they symbolize moments when old wounds and truths can finally surface in a safe space. It reminded me that confronting those difficult truths with friends who understand is a crucial step toward healing and growth. If you’ve ever felt isolated in your emotional struggles or wished for that steadfast sisterhood, 'Before the Streetlights Come On' may spark the hope you need. It not only explores romantic love but emphasizes the love and strength found in deep friendships – a message that feels personal and universal simultaneously. For those who appreciate women's fiction that delves into healing reads and authentic storytelling, this book is a gem that broadens your perspective on love and friendship while gently encouraging self-reflection and honesty.

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I loved this book and hope it turns into a series

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I loved this book! ♥️

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