Oh sh*t! How will u define yourself when you’re actually healed if your traumas

What happens when you’re actually done healing? How will you define yourself then — when it’s not by your traumas & labels? Get “There’s a hole in my love cup” my 64-week TOP 10 bestselling book that will kick your butt and change your life. Get it at my website BadassCounseling.com. Available as audiobook ebook paperback. In Spanish French German & Swedish. Also get the official workbook to accompany it, full of questions, song recommendations and more. Join the new, limited enrollment Badass Community (CMTY-PLUS!) which provides direct access to me, 2x/month plus drawings every month for free group & 1:1 counseling with me, priority pass access to more opportunities, plus a great community of warm and supportive people on the journey together, and so much MORE!!! Also available is my latest book, BADASS WISDOM, a 365 day daily meditational and inspirational book. It’s a great way to jumpstart every day. Also download my free podcast, The Badass Counseling Show. Listen while I counsel and coach many people through life’s hardest problems, many of which you may be going through yourself. Also available  are DIY video courses on relationships, parenting, dating, self healing, & more. BadassCounseling.com #mentalhealth #wellness #trauma #healing #foryou

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... Read moreHealing from trauma is a transformative journey that often challenges the way we see ourselves. I remember when I first started therapy, my identity was deeply tied to my past experiences and the labels that came with them. It took time and effort to realize that healing doesn’t mean erasing your history, but rather integrating it into a whole new sense of self. One pivotal aspect of this process is discovering how to define yourself without the crutch of trauma labels. This is easier said than done. When personal growth begins, you might find yourself facing an identity void – once your trauma no longer defines you, who are you? Finding that answer requires patience and curiosity. It helps to engage with supportive communities where you can share experiences and learn from others on similar paths. From my experience, tools like journaling, meditation, and reflective workbooks can guide you in exploring your values, passions, and goals separate from past wounds. Audiobooks and podcasts that openly discuss mental health and healing journeys also serve as powerful companions. For example, accessing guided courses on relationships and self-healing can provide actionable strategies to rebuild confidence and emotional resilience. Additionally, embracing languages and cultures through translated healing resources can deepen your connection to a broader healing community worldwide. This diversity in approach reminds us healing is not linear but a tapestry woven from many perspectives. Ultimately, the moment you stop defining yourself by the trauma and labels is a milestone. It's where you move toward freedom, lightness, and a balanced self-awareness. It’s okay to feel uncertain at first; this new identity is yours to create. Surround yourself with faith in your growth, engage with healing tools, and stay open to the evolution of your authentic self – that’s real empowerment in healing.

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As a person who has gone through that healing, I define myself by who I am in there now a loving mom.a hard worker, provider, and a person of great compassion and strength.

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