Pain 😎🖤
This is a painful truth.
You'll never grow up.
If you still blame others!
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If you often mistake that,
To have maturity is
Having a high salary. Having a car.
Or 30 +
But psychologically,
True maturity is
Ability to
"100% responsible for your own life."
You're ready to stop playing the "victim" role.
Who blames everything around you?
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If you still use energy,
Go with complaining about traffic jams,
Chief, it's not fair,
Or disheartened fate...
You're giving "life power."
To totally external factors.
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Projection (projection)
People without maturity often use
The so-called psychological mechanism
Projection is "throwing guilt."
Or your "bad feelings."
Go to someone else. Environment.
To protect the ego itself.
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Use the "Change the Question" rule (The Reframe Rule)
Every time I feel like complaining, I blame people.
Alter the question immediately.
From "Why does this have to happen to me?"
As, "What am I going to do?
Better in this situation? "
Changing the question.
Will change you from the victim.
Be the immediate editor.
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Practice "emotional spacing."
(Emotional Distance)
When someone makes you angry,
Don't retaliate immediately. Tell yourself that.
"This is his mood, not my problem."
Spacing will help you.
Respond for a reason, not an emotion.
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Stop being a victim. Be 100% responsible.
Continue your own "emotions."
And then you feel powerful in control of life.
More than ever before.
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