Seven habits that can "crawl up" even at the bottom of life
① Don't blame the "day of doing nothing"
No matter how much you know in your head when you're at rock bottom
My body won't follow me.
It's about whether you're bad or not
it's not about that, it's about emotion and action.
The state in which an error has occurred.
Emotions haven't caught up
Even if you are conscious of forcibly acting, as a result
It makes me suffer.
It's not "I couldn't do anything today."
I want you to think, "I'm alive today."
Only those who can stop as a result
Moving forward in life.
② Do not make fun of actions that are too small
When I'm at the bottom
You don't have to think, "I'm going to change my life."
Or rather, even if you try to think so in that state
My body can't keep up with my emotions.
As a result, there is a burden on the mind.
The important thing is,
To feel "myself who has not stopped."
For example
Go outside for five minutes.
Go to the convenience store.
Just one word to someone.
That's all I need.
when life changes so much
The beginning is very small.
It's hard to notice for yourself.
That's why we take it for granted
Let's have consciousness that we don't take for granted.
Change the words you say to yourself.
The biggest enemy at the bottom is not the environment or the people
It's the "voice within me."
"Why can't I do it?"
"I'm no good."
"It's impossible anyway."
If I keep showered myself with these words
There is no reason to turn forward.
There was only one thing I started to change.
How dare you come this far?
"First of all, this is not a matter of course."
"This reality is supporting each other around."
When you ask yourself these.
Before people change with their actions
Change with words.
Words create thoughts, and thoughts create personality.
④ Change the people involved rather than the environment
Justification is the hardest when you're at the bottom.
Sometimes kindness is more important than righteousness.
"Do your best"
"Don't be spoiled"
Anyone can do that.
If you bathe in these words
Not only will you hate yourself even more
I also feel the pain.
What we need is not the right argument
Someone who tries to understand.
It doesn't have to be perfect advice.
Next to me, "That's tough, isn't it?"
People can recover just by having people who understand.
People are broken by people and despaired by people.
But in the same way, people know warmth
Be saved by people.
⑤ Do not deny the past
"If I did this at that time"
"If I had made a different choice..."
I think about these things many times.
But at that time I was in a sense
i could only make that choice.
It's not a bad thing, it's about being yourself now.
The irreplaceable "experience" that has formed me.
Experience at the bottom feels like hell at that time
Looking back later, I understand or notice.
Because of that, I am where I am now.
The depth of life cannot be created by smooth sailing.
Be yourself who can love anyone.
⑥ Don't rush to change everything
when you're trying to get out of the deep end
People become extreme.
Change your job.
Let's cut off human relationships.
Change the whole environment.
They alone will surely collapse.
Everything is just a means, so the important thing is
Take care of your "beliefs and values."
instead of trying to change your life at once
To go little by little. Little by little, little by little.
This combination will eventually result in great results.
I understand the rush, but people who really change
"A person who does not stop even if it is slow"
There is no waste in my life.
⑦ Do not try to crawl up alone
In the end, this is the most important.
Don't rely on anyone as much as when you're at the bottom
It takes up a lot of us humans.
i don't want to bother you.
I don t want to feel weak.
but when i try to do it alone
It will always get stuck somewhere.
The potential of one person is limited.
Start organizing with someone.
Try to confess even one thing to people.
Try to expose it as it is.
Just a little courage.
It leads to a great sense of security.
i'm not asking for an answer.
From the realization that I am not alone
People move forward.
Do what you can.
Rely on people for what you can't do.
Now, people who want to beat life further
If you want to change now, let's talk once!
どん底の状態にある時、私自身も同じように何をすればいいのかわからず、体も心も動かない日々を過ごしました。しかし、このような状況でも無理に何かを成し遂げようとするのではなく、まずは自分を責めずに“何もしない日”を受け入れることが大切だと感じています。体と心のバランスが崩れている時は、自分の感情や行動にエラーが起きている状態であり、そこからの回復には時間が必要だからです。 また、小さな一歩を軽視せず、例えば5分外を歩いてみる、誰かに一言連絡をしてみるなど、ほんの少しの行動を積み重ねることで、止まっている自分ではなく、動き続けている自分を実感できました。人生の変化は最初から大きく飛躍することは難しいので、小さな変化を認めること自体が進歩につながります。 さらに、自分自身にどう声をかけるかも非常に重要です。ネガティブな自己批判は心を蝕んでしまいますが、「よくここまで来たね」と自分を労う言葉に変えていくことで、自己肯定感が少しずつ育ちました。言葉は思考や人格を形成する大切な要素ですので、意識してポジティブな言葉を自分にかける習慣を持つようにしています。 どん底の時は周りの人の反応が特に敏感に感じられますが、正論をぶつけてくる人より「それキツいよね」とただ理解してくれる人の存在がどれだけ力になったか計り知れません。孤独を感じやすいこの時期に、誰かと気持ちを共有できる安心感は大きな支えになります。 過去の失敗を否定せず、それも経験として受け入れられるようになると、人生の深みが増し、自分を愛することができるようになります。焦って全てを変えようとするのではなく、信念や価値観を大切にしながら一歩ずつ進むことが重要です。 最後に、一人でがんばりすぎないこと。私も弱さを見せることが怖かったのですが、誰かに頼る勇気を持つことで、思わぬ安心感や前進への力を得られました。このような支え合いの中で、自分だけでなく他者とも繋がりを持ち、共に歩むことが人生の回復に繋がると感じています。 この7つの習慣は私の実体験に基づくものであり、どん底から這い上がりたい人に是非試してほしい大切なステップです。少しずつでも進み続けることで、人生は確実に明るい方向へ向かっていきます。
