NS Girlfriend #2 - Outfield🌳
Helloo lemonbebes🍋🍸
⌛️LONG OVERDUE UPDATE⌛️
So overdue that my partner already POP HAHAHA 😭 but anyway… for the NS girlies who are worried about surviving outfield, here’s my experience as a girl who is clingy and has attachment issues 😪
So outfield would usually be 5 days,4night and for my partner he came back the night of the 5th day. And one thing about outfield is of course… NO PHONES📵 So on the morning of outfield my partner made sure to fully charge so it could survive all 5 days being plugged in. He did everything he could to conserve battery🔋
❓Why does he not just off his phone?
He wasn’t sure if scheduled messages would still send if his phone was off, so he kept it on just to be safe 🫶🏼 He scheduled 3 messages a day for 4 days — morning, lunch, and dinner 🥹 AND every single message was different 🥹💕
In those messages, he made sure it felt like we were actually texting. On days he roughly knew what he’d be doing, he would include that in the message. Knowing me, he knew this period would be really hard… so he even added countdowns like:
“1 day down, 3 more to go”
“You’re already 50% through the day”
🫶🏼 Little things, but they meant everything to me.
💭 How was I during those 5 days?
❤️🩹 Honestly… I was doing really bad.
Daytime was okay — I still texted, updated, and sent him voice messages like normal, as if he could reply 🤡
But nights were the hardest. In my first post, I shared that I really struggle with not calling at night, and that was when it hit the most. For 3 nights, I cried — badly 🥲 I had no choice but to suck it up and go through it with zero options.
BUT one of my partner’s biggest efforts was that he recorded his voice for me beforehand, hoping it would help me fall asleep at night (and it really did 🥹🩵). It just showed how well he knows me and my struggles 😗
Before anyone comes for me
Yes, I’m clingy. Yes, I’m dramatic. I am just one who really struggle with changes… I know this isn’t permanent — but when you’re so used to a routine, sudden changes are really hard to adapt to. So please don’t attack me
💬 To my fellow NS girlies
If you’ve gone through outfield before, how was it for you? How did you cope?
And for those who are about to go through it soon — I hope this makes you feel a little less alone and maybe even a bit more prepared 🤍
The experience of NS outfield can be a major challenge for girlfriends who are used to constant communication with their partners. The strict no-phone rule during the outfield period, usually lasting five days and four nights, means that couples have to find alternative ways to stay connected emotionally. One effective technique is the use of scheduled messages. These are pre-written texts sent at strategic times like morning, lunch, and dinner, which help create the illusion of ongoing conversation and reduce feelings of isolation. It is important that these messages feel personalized and sincere, offering updates on what the partner might be doing and including countdowns to mark the progress of the days apart. Voice recordings are another invaluable tool. They provide the comforting sound of a loved one's voice during difficult moments, especially at night, helping those separated to fall asleep and feel closer despite the distance. For individuals with attachment issues or who find change hard to tolerate, such gestures show deep understanding and empathy, strengthening the relationship. The emotional rollercoaster during outfield is expected: daytime might be manageable with distractions like sending voice notes or journaling thoughts, but nighttime can be particularly tough. Allowing oneself to feel vulnerable, such as crying or expressing feelings to friends, can be therapeutic. Moreover, acknowledging one's clinginess or anxieties without judgment is essential to emotional health. Incorporating reminders of special places or shared memories, like the phrase “I love you, forever and always PASIR RIS,” brings warmth and reassurance. Pasir Ris, a coastal residential town in Singapore known for its nature spots, may symbolize a meaningful location for the couple, making the message even more personal. For NS girlfriends preparing to endure outfield separation, planning ahead with supportive strategies helps ease the emotional strain. Communicating needs openly with partners, setting expectations realistically, and creating small rituals for connection build resilience. Remember, the outfield is a temporary phase, and these efforts contribute to maintaining a strong, loving bond despite physical absence. Do you have your own NS outfield coping tips or stories? Sharing experiences within the community can offer comfort and practical advice to those facing similar challenges. Together, NS girlfriends can support each other through this unique phase of their relationships.
