NS Girlfriend #1
Heyyy Lemonbebes🍋💐
First post energy✨I’m a new NS girlfriend and I’m just a few hours away from finally seeing him again after his confinement week, and it made me reflect on how these past few weeks have been 💌
So straight to the point - the morning of enlistment day, I was teasing and joking around with him saying “bye bye” happily to him and i told him how I wouldn’t cry🙃 but when the time came to actually part, I grew quiet and emotional 🤡 BUT I didn’t cry because his parents was around and I didn’t want to affect him too
That night he only had a few minutes to call me before he went to his bunk… and that was when i broke down SO BAD😭 (call me a crybaby) It just hit me how different everything felt - we used to call every night and sleep on the call, and suddenly it had to change😢 (I struggle with changes)
The first week was rough. He did call me before lights out but I still cried most nights when he had to end the call.. and I was worrying about how he was adapting to camp and missing him so much🫶🏼
By the second week, things got better. He’d call me during his admin time 🕰️ and even those 5mins chat meant the world💕Some days we barely texted because his schedule can get packed and sometimes by the time he calls me at night, it would be lights out alreadyy💔
Now in the third week🥳 We’re counting down the days, excited to meet each other! He’s adjusted to NS life and was more active with his bunkmates🥹 We ofc still miss each other, but we’ve both just took our time to adjust and get used to our “new routine/life”
So call me dramatic or what.. It’s definitely a big change - from always being in touch to suddenly having limited time tgt. But I’ve realised that being an NS GF means learning to be understanding and supportive through it all💌 because there is so much that he can/cant do being in the army with so much restrictions🚫I will always try to not stress him up and appreciate him for the littlest things he does from the short calls, long texts and every little effort❤️🥰
To my fellow NS girlfriends — how did you cope during the first few weeks? 🥹💛 sending love and strength to all of you!
Part 2 will be our next step to go through which would be his first outfield🌳 I might make another post about it once it happens🫶🏼
Navigating a relationship during National Service can be tough but also incredibly rewarding. From my experience, communication is key even when it’s limited. Small moments like a short call or a sweet message really brighten the day and strengthen the bond. Care packages are a wonderful way to show love and support. Including thoughtful items like aloe vera gel or trusted sunblock can help him feel cared for amidst the demanding NS schedule. I’ve also learned that understanding his new routine and offering encouragement helps ease both our worries. Many fellow NS girlfriends find creative ways to stay connected, whether through sending handwritten notes or planning future dates for when NS duties ease. It’s important to focus on the positives and remind yourself that this phase, though challenging, is temporary. To all NS girlfriends, remember you’re not alone—lean on friends for support and share your experiences. These weeks may be tough, but your patience, love, and support truly make a difference for your boyfriend during his NS journey.
