Help me pick his first haircut!
SJ might be getting his first big boy haircut… and this mama is not emotionally prepared.
For the longest time people have told me I should cut his hair because they think he looks like a girl. But what many of them don’t realize is that SJ has already learned to correct people himself. He’ll confidently say, “I’m a boy.”
And honestly… I love that about him.
Those curls have been part of our bonding time since he was a baby. Wash days, detangling, styling… it’s been our little routine together. So the thought of cutting them feels like closing a chapter I wasn’t quite ready for.
But the other day I asked him if he wanted a haircut… and he did say yes.
So here we are.
Part of me wonders if it’s because his cousins have been cutting their hair, or maybe he’s just stepping fully into his big boy era (he’s the youngest of the crew). Either way, at the end of the day it’s his hair and I want to honor that.
Now we need your help deciding his first big boy haircut.
Which one should SJ get?
Comment 1, 2, 3, or 4.
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Deciding on a child’s first haircut can be quite a sentimental experience, especially when the hair has been a defining feature and a source of bonding for years. From my experience as a parent navigating this milestone, I completely understand the hesitation and mixed emotions involved. Caring for curly hair on toddlers requires special attention and love—it’s more than just grooming; it’s about creating moments together. I’ve found that wash days and styling routines can become cherished rituals that build confidence and foster self-identity in young kids. Those curls hold stories and memories, so choosing a haircut isn’t just a physical change but a meaningful transition. When it comes to toddler boy haircuts, styles that preserve natural texture while offering ease of care tend to work best. Options like a classic short curly cut, a tapered fade maintaining length on top, or a simple trim to keep the curls healthy can all highlight the child’s personality and unique look. Listening to the child is crucial—reminding us that their preference shapes the experience positively. It’s also important to address common misconceptions, such as people mistaking a boy with curls for a girl. Encouraging toddlers to proudly express their identity, as SJ confidently says, "I’m a boy," is empowering and admirable. Involving the community or fellow parents through social media or forums can bring fresh ideas and reassurance. Sharing photos of different toddler boy haircuts and discussing practical tips for curly hair care can make this journey easier and more enjoyable. Ultimately, honoring your child’s choice while celebrating their unique features encourages self-esteem and joy. So whichever haircut SJ chooses, it’s a new beginning filled with love and confidence—an exciting first step into his big boy era.
He does look more girl than boy. #1 looks best.