If He Says This About Housework... BLOCK HIM 🚫🧹
Ladies, stop leaving your love life to "fate" (or the algorithm). Dating is not gambling; it is SCREENING. 🧐If you don't want to cry in a grab ride home three months later, use these 7 moves to vet him ASAP.
1️⃣ The "Small Investment" Test 💸
Start by being nice. Buy him a small gift (bubble tea, a nice keychain). Nothing exp.
The Test: Does he reciprocate within 2 months?
• Green Flag: He remembers and treats you back.
• Red Flag: He takes it for granted. Sis, if he’s "blur" about money now, he will be stingy forever. Block.
2️⃣ The Money Talk 💰
• If he’s average income: Ask about career goals. Is he hungry? Or is he asking if your parents stay landed? If he hints at "relying on you" financially... RUN.
• If he’s rich: Talk chores. If he says "Girls should do housework"... 🚮. If he says "Let's share," he passes.
3️⃣ The PIE/ECP Traffic Test 🚗
Watch him drive (or take a Grab/Gojek).
Does he curse at other drivers? Does he treat the PHV uncle with respect?
Bonus: Ask about his ex. If his ex is "crazy" and "psycho," he is likely the problem.
4️⃣ The "Bad Day" Check ⛈️
Observe him when he’s stressed at work or tired. Does he lash out at you?
Love is easy when things are smooth. Character is revealed when things go wrong.
5️⃣ The "Tiny Conflict" ⚡
Disagree with him on something small (e.g., where to eat). If he turns cold, silent treatment, or gets aggressive just because you have a different opinion? DELETE.
6️⃣ The "U-Turn" (CRUCIAL!) 🔄
Scenario: You're out, maybe at Marina Bay, and say, "Eh, I think I left my wallet at the restaurant. Can we go back?" (A 1-hour detour).
• Pass: He problem solves. Calls the shop. Goes back with you.
• Fail: He explodes, blames you for being careless, or leaves you to settle it yourself. That is an Emotional Bomb.
7️⃣ The "Mirroring" Technique 🪞
Agree with his lazy views just to see how far he goes.
"Ya lor, why men must do housework?"
If he thinks housework is "a woman's job," he’s looking for a bang-maid, not a partner.
Save this post. Don't let a man waste your youth. ✨
From my own experiences and conversations with friends, early dating is like a trial phase where you really get to see who someone is beyond the surface. The "Small Investment" Test is surprisingly insightful; a simple gesture like gifting a bubble tea and waiting to see if it’s reciprocated reveals a lot about someone’s appreciation and generosity. I once ignored this and ended up with a partner who never acknowledged any effort—it was draining. Money and attitudes toward chores are big indicators too. I knew a guy who proudly said "women should handle housework," which immediately set off alarms. Shared responsibilities in a relationship aren’t just about fairness, they show respect for each other as equals. Anyone dismissing this is likely stuck in outdated mindsets that don’t belong in a healthy partnership. The "PIE/ECP Traffic Test" might sound unusual, but how a person treats drivers or service workers reflects their basic respect for others. I recall a date where the guy aggressively cursed at the Grab driver, and it was a major red flag for his temper and lack of kindness. Also, watch how he handles bad days or tiny conflicts; those moments are when true character shines. Some people show their worst when stressed, which you can't overlook if you're looking for a supportive partner. Lastly, the "Mirroring" Technique is gold. Agreeing with lazy, sexist remarks just to see if he doubles down helps catch those who think a relationship is about domination or convenience rather than partnership. Trust your instincts but also use these tests as practical tools to filter out unsuitable partners early. Don’t let anyone waste your youth or emotional energy—screen wisely and value yourself first.