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The Circle Theory of Life: What Should Keep in Mind, What Should Let Go

"The Circle Theory of Life: What Should Keep in Mind, What Should Let Go"

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There is one thing that has been noticed in myself and those around you for a long time.

That a lot of times we're tired.

It's not because life is too troubled.

But because we try to carry things that are not ours too

.

Our lives are like there are always two circles.

The first band is what is in our hands.

The act itself. The attitude itself.

The sense of choice and the energy to use.

The second band is what continues to try.

We can't control it.

Other people's thoughts. Other people's judgments.

A past that has passed and a future that has yet to come.

.

The problem is that many people use most of their energy in life.

Chase and control a circle that is not your own.

Trying to change other people's minds.

Try to make everyone understand

Trying to brace the past that has passed.

Trying to force a future that hasn't happened yet.

Until forgetting what to take care of the most

Is ourselves

.

Growing up, he gradually learned that

Some words

No need to keep thinking all night

Some people.

No need to try to maintain it for life.

Some things.

There's no need to find all the answers.

Because not everything will be created for us to carry

Something is for release.

.

Something to let go of.

Let go of expectations that others never promised to give.

Let go of trying to control what's not ours.

Releasing a repeated heartbreaking relationship

And release the effort to make everyone love us.

.

Something that should be kept.

Store your own energy.

Keep your own calm.

Keep people who love us sincerely.

And keep my own heart.

Not to be broken with everything on earth

.

And one of the truths I want to say

A happy life.

Not a life without problems.

But life knows that.

What should be in the heart

And what should be let out?

Because of our hearts.

Didn't have enough space.

Will keep everything on this planet together

.

Thinking questions for today

Now, what's in my heart that feels like

Carrying it for a long time

But maybe it wasn't ours in the first place?

# Amis mind tuning area # Mind care # Mind health # Let go # Psychology

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