Do you think it's good to go ahead? Tears
"So that children will not be troubled"
"Don't fail and get hurt."
From that deep love,
You can go ahead and call out,
There are times when parents impose the correct answer.
However, if you continue to interfere,
Children's "ability to think and choose for themselves (self-axis)"
I'm falling asleep little by little.
If you were "surprised" by the appearance three years later,
It's a great opportunity to change the way you interact now! ✨
A step to graduate from excessive interference that can be done from today:
When asked, "Mom, which one do you want?"
👉 gently respond to the question, "Which one is more exciting, XX-chan?."
2. When you fail
👉 "Nice try! You can decide what to do next" acknowledges the process.
The role of parents is not to lay the perfect rails,
To "trust and watch" children as they walk on their own feet.
Even now, it's never too late, so it's okay.
Message from Sayako 💌
Actually, when you become over-interference with your child, you often push yourself to the last minute, saying "I have to do it properly" or "I can't fail."
This is also a signal that the mother herself grew up in the environment of HSP and AC (adult children) in her childhood and unconsciously inherits that pattern to child rearing.
You don't have to blame yourself for saying "I have to change."
First of all, if you prepare your mother's own heart flat and recreate your tattered self-esteem, the way you relate to nature and children will change.
Let's create a "foundation of a heart that will not collapse" together with Saya without holding it alone.
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# HSP # adult _ children Overcoming the AC Self-affirmation Self axis# Psychological counselor # Parenting troubles # Over-interference # Prepare your mind # Childcare irritation
私もかつて子育てで「良かれと思って先回り」ばかりしてしまい、子どもの自発性が失われていることに気づかず悩んだ経験があります。特に『ママ、どっちがいい？』と聞かれたらつい答えを与えてしまい、自分で考える力を育てる大切さを忘れていました。しかし、この記事のように子どもの「自分軸」を尊重して質問を返す方法を実践することで、子どもが自分の感情や選択に対して意識的になり、自信を持ち始めました。 また、失敗を恐れずチャレンジする姿勢を認めることで、子どもが成功だけでなく過程も大事にする心を育てることができます。私自身も、親として完璧を求めるプレッシャーから解放され、子どもの成長を信じて見守ることができるようになりました。 記事内で触れられているHSPやアダルトチルドレンの傾向は、自分自身が抱える課題にも気づかせてくれる重要なポイントです。心の状態を整え自己肯定感を再構築した いと感じる親御さんは、遠慮せず専門家の相談を受けることで、より良い親子関係を築く一歩になると実感しています。 過干渉を卒業し、子どもの「自分で考える力」を守るためには、まず親自身が心の土台を安定させることが欠かせません。子育てのイライラや不安に振り回されず、前向きに子どもと向き合う時間を増やすことが、親子共に幸せな未来につながります。
