Devastated to the ground.✨

👉 is anyone stuck in this loop?

Want to refuse...But afraid that he will not like us

The work itself is swamped...But when someone asked for help, he smiled and said, "Yes, no problem."

Be quiet, tolerate, apologize, even though we didn't do anything wrong, just because of fear of conflict.

Psychologically, we call people who like to pamper others to swallow their desires "People Pleasers" (or chronic diseases).

You may look cute on the outside, a Nice Guy / Nice Girl that everyone loves, but on the inside of your mind? It may be screaming with fatigue, trauma, and awkwardness because you are "carrying the feelings of the whole world...Except for yourself. "

🛑 Why is being a "People Pleaser" so dangerous to the heart?

It's a good thing to be nice to others, but if it's "afraid of rejection" or "afraid of others not loving," it becomes toxic immediately.

Because when you give in to everyone, people around you start to see that as your job, and whenever you can't do what they expect, you immediately become guilty.

"Remember that...The more you try to be perfect for someone else, the more you're signaling to yourself that 'my feelings aren't worth it'. "

🔑 3 ways to unlock yourself. Salad the habit of giving up carrying the world.

If you start to feel that your heart is broken today, try to practice these three simple things to restore your life.

☑️ practice using the "5-second rule" before saying yes: When someone asks to help, don't just get out of your mouth and say "yes" immediately, take a deep breath for five seconds and ask yourself, "Do we have time now? Are we willing to do it? Or are we just afraid of him being angry?

☑️ saying no softly, rejection does not mean that we are mean, we can politely but firmly reject, such as "I want to help, but now our work is really full, if it may not come out well" or "Thank you for inviting, but we really need time to rest."

☑️ accept the fact that "we can't make everyone love us." Even if you do well, someone doesn't like you anyway. It's the truth of the world. So stop tying your values to other people's mouths or eyes.

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Reverence is good...But there must be "boundaries."

Don't be so kind to others that you become mean to yourself.

Where?..Who is a People Pleaser carrying other people's feelings until they have broken their backs, or who has already passed that point, and how is there a way to deceive their own considerate habits?

Let's share the comments, sign the medicine, technique, or clear the awkwardness here. This area is safe and always ready to listen to everyone. 🤍👇

# PeoplePleaser # considerate # Love yourself # Self-improvement # Mental health