Just say NO

Vent session

As a person who dealt with anxiety before having a baby it gets worse after having a baby. I am a people pleaser and when I don’t please someone I get really down on myself. As a first time Mom I realized I need to stop worrying about others and focus on myself and my baby. Now that’s easier said than done. I finally got the courage to tell someone they weren’t allowed to hold my baby at a family event because it made me feel uncomfortable their response was they were going to do it anyways. I started shaking because dealing with anxiety makes me not want to deal with confrontation. All I wanted to do was cry but I knew I was doing what I as best for my child and me at the time.

Some back story my baby is only 2 months and haven’t had any shots yet. I also didn’t want my baby to be passed around to everyone collecting each person germs in the month of February. So if I let one person hold him everyone was going to want to hold him.

The point of this post is say NO. It might make you feel uncomfortable but you have to do what’s best for you and your child!

#newmom #newmomlife #ventsession #ventpost

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2025/3/5 Edited to

... Read moreNavigating motherhood brings unique challenges, especially for first-time moms. Anxiety often intensifies with the responsibilities of caring for a newborn. It's essential to establish boundaries for others regarding your baby to protect them from germs and unnecessary handling. Many new parents feel pressured to accommodate family expectations, but prioritizing your baby's health and your mental well-being is crucial. In recent discussions among new moms, themes of self-care and asserting boundaries resonate widely. The experience of saying 'no' can feel daunting, but such actions empower parents to maintain their comfort levels. Sharing your feelings can also foster understanding among family members. Engaging in honest conversations about child-rearing practices, especially regarding safety precautions like limiting contact during early months, can cultivate stronger family support. Moreover, various platforms have highlighted that peer discussions regarding the struggles of new motherhood assist in normalizing the idea of setting limits and addressing anxiety. By actively participating in support groups or online forums where these themes are discussed, new moms can feel less isolated in their experiences. Education on infant health and recognizing the right to say 'no' are fundamental parts of the parenting journey. Allowing oneself grace and compassion while navigating these feelings is essential for emotional resilience. Remember, it's not just acceptable but necessary to advocate for both your well-being and your child's.

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Sierra | SAHM🩷's images
Sierra | SAHM🩷

absolutely say no!!! you are your baby’s voice so you gotta protect them! i have a 6 month old and im still learning to stick to my boundaries. you got this!! 🫶🏼

Modern Mom | Shannon's images
Modern Mom | Shannon

You are totally right to say no! 🥺 Next time, don’t even accept the invitation to go anywhere. I didn’t go anywhere and had limited people over for the first six months to a year for my twins. It’s totally ok to say no to literally everything and everyone right now! Plus I’m sure your super tired!

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