the struggleswith being confident

ik thisll sound like im coming from a place of privilege dont get me wrong, however i find it valid to feel insecure at some points too.

i know myself as a very confident and in tuned person when it comes to my mind and my body.

however, lately ive been feeling insecure about literally everything and feel ugly or unattractive sometimes even though im not and i know i am not because of the validation i receive through ppl on the internet.

i feel like since i hold myself to a very high standard of how i present myself, i feel more ugly on those days where i dont put so much effort on my hair, or my outfit, or my make up, or if i feel bloated on some days. its so constantly draining and annoying to drive myself crazy and crave validation from other people and i have no idea how to rewire my brain to not seek so much validation especially ever since joining social media and having a platform.

any tips or advice? send it here or my way through ig dms/ tiktok

@kev⚜️ @kevmauna everywhere🫶

2025/4/18 Edited to

... Read moreConfidence is a multifaceted emotion that often fluctuates in response to various internal and external factors. Many individuals find themselves grappling with insecurities, especially in a social media landscape where appearances can be magnified. One of the biggest challenges faced is the tendency to compare oneself to curated online personas, leading to unrealistic standards. It's important to remember that many influencers and public figures also face insecurities behind their seemingly perfect lives. Reconsidering the impact of social media can be transformative. Setting boundaries around social media usage, such as limiting time spent on these platforms or curating feeds to include positive role models, can help decrease feelings of inadequacy. Building a supportive community, either online or in-person, can also foster feelings of acceptance and shared experiences. This sense of belonging is crucial in combating feelings of isolation that often accompany self-doubt. Practicing self-compassion is another vital tool in overcoming these struggles. Instead of harsh self-criticism, fostering a dialogue of kindness and understanding within oneself can redefine how we perceive our flaws. Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation or journaling, can encourage reflection on positive attributes, shifting focus from physical appearance to inner strengths. Engaging in activities that boost self-esteem, whether through hobbies, exercise, or skill-building, empowers individuals by reinforcing a positive self-image. Taking small steps towards self-acceptance can gradually diminish the weight of external validation, allowing for a healthier relationship with oneself. Remember, confidence is not about perfection; it's about embracing one’s true self amidst imperfections.

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Hey me and you are going through the same thing, what I do is I write down things about my day, or what I like about my self in a paper and say it about 5 to 10 times, I also just pay attention to myself, not what other people look like, not what they have, it might be hard at first but it dose help, and the last one is to love, and live my life, I love my self, how I’m made, who I am as a person, and I live, I don’t think too deep on what people have to say about me, this one might be hard as well but you will get the hang of it i promise, and my looking at you, you don’t look ugly, if anything I think you look very handsome, and you are not the only one is humans all feel like this, you are not alone💓

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honestly i think knowing that u are made in the image of God is confidence in itself! Means that no one is born ugly! But ppl bring other ppl down bc they get jealous of what u got that they dont. ive received hate and death threats of ppl idk and theyd call me ugly. honestly its been hurting me so idk what else to do no more too haha 😅

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