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Should he move in?

I bought my first flat last year, and now my boyfriend wants to move in. We’ve been together nearly 7 years, and while I do love him, I’m worried it’ll feel like taking care of another person rather than living together as equals.

When he stays over now, I feel like my workload increases a lot. He thinks he already does enough, but I don’t always feel that way. One small example: I washed and hung his clothes after a trip, and he got upset that I didn’t prioritize drying his boxers first. It made me feel unappreciated.

He’s coming from his parents’ house where his mom still does everything for him, and since he works from home, he’d be in my flat more than I am. I can’t shake the worry that I’ll end up carrying most of the load.

Do you think I should let him move in, or wait until I feel more sure?

#AskLemon8 #LetsChat #RelationshipTalk

2025/9/20 Edited to

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Why are you taking care of a grown man like you’re his mother? He will expect that forever if you continue to do so, and already seems like he kind of does because he’s babied at home

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