For anyone who questions why we didn't want to fight for our stuff, or in court, or even for justice. It's because we've used every bit of energy we had and more fighting for survival. What's worse is we're usually still fighting to survive daily life after we get out. That'

Abusive people won't ever give anything up including the power and control over us. These are all things we must take for ourselves. It's not easy, but it's worth it and it's the only way we get our lives back.

Not everyone struggling or in misery is miserable or stuck. Many people move through it, whether fast or slow. Some people choose to be in it and they want to drag everyone else into it too. I choose not to spend time with these people. I also hope they choose at some point to work through it too!

Toxic people think they can walk back into our lives whenever they want and get whatever they want. This is completely BS! We don't owe them anything more than what was agreed to when we separated. They are simply looking for ways to force themselves back into our lives and control and push our

Many organizations of all kinds want us to fight and argue with each other and buy into their belief systems. This keeps us buying their products and it shuts down conversations about everything. The connection, community and conversation is one of the most important things in our lives. The more o

Abusive relationships in any form leave marks far beyond any physical ones we ever see. They also hold us back in more ways than most of us recognize. It's essential to get the support and do the work to heal and release those wounds. This is what I do. Help you let go of what you've gone t

It's not about working or trying harder, it's always about releasing the things holding us back. There are also many layers to this. Becoming aware of it is the first step. We can't change anything we're unaware of. Releasing the things holding us back is always easier than pushing

So many people think they've done the work, and many of them have. The reality is there is always more work to do. If we are not where we want to be in our lives and relationships, there is still more work to do. It doesn't mean we're broken or there's something wrong, it simply mea

Abusive people don't want to let us go. Keeping ourselves safe is essential. Only communicating when we absolutely have to is best and through text or email, rather than phone calls. No is a complete sentence and we don't owe anyone an explanation.

Most people I think are doing ok on the outside. I also know that in a deeper conversation many of them are struggling with finding or being in healthy relationships, or really loving the work they do. All of these things are affected by our emotional health and capacity. Working on this is life al

Most people I think are doing ok on the outside. I also know that in a deeper conversation many of them are struggling with finding or being in healthy relationships, or really loving the work they do. All of these things are affected by our emotional health and capacity. Working on this is life al

Whose airpod is this anyway? 🤣

Abusive relationships all look different. It usually seems subtle until we get out and realize how bad it actually was. We don't have to tolerate bad behavior from other people.

Fun is one of those underrated things especially for those of us on healing journeys. It's probably one of the most essential things we can do for our healing journey. It's also one of the things that was often ruined by the abusive people in our lives. Take the time today to go do somethin

We're afraid of the shame and judgement from others even after we've removed the abusive person from our lives. Awareness is the way out of this. The key is to be extremely kind and compassionate with ourselves as we gain this awareness. This is the way forward in your life!

We all have coping mechanisms whether we want to admit to them or not. Laughing it off is a regular coping mechanism for many people I think and it's a good one. I also think we can all be kind no matter the situation we're in to ourselves and everyone else.

I may get some hate for this and there may be some drama. It's also a perspective I've had for a long time and it's served me well. I understand that many people may feel judged about this, but that's not the point of the video. The point is that we can choose our perspective on thi

We know what we want in our lives, but many of us struggle to allow it into our lives. This is often because of the unhealed wounds we are carrying. It's the biggest thing I see holding most people back. As we heal these wounds, it makes everything better in our lives.

I got to talk with a client I haven't talked to in a long time. I was incredibly grateful to hear how well they are doing now. Many of us think this work is about working through all the hard times and the struggles, and part of it is. The point, though, is to work through and release those thi

It seems absolutely crazy what people go through in abusive relationships, except it's often true. What we actually go through is often worse than what we initially believe ourselves. It doesn't mean it didn't happen. We can all use a little more kindness and compassion from everyone in