Become a child who is not afraid of failure! Two secrets that parents can do from today to lower the hurdle of challenge
In a previous post, I mentioned that the kind encouragement of "It's okay to fail" and "You can do it!" can actually turn into pressure and anxiety depending on the age and temperament of the child.
"So, what kind of stance should parents take when they want to challenge new things freely?"
The answer is not just a technique to rephrase a line, but to create an environment in which children can feel at ease that their value does not change even if they fail ✨
This time, we have compiled tips for two ways to interact with children to turn their "I want to try!" into the strongest energy.
1️⃣ Any number of times (face)
When your child says, "I want to do this! I want to do that too!," why don't you go out with the excitement of that moment over and over again?
Even if the challenge is "I made a lot of mistakes...," the parent will affirm the process by saying "It's a nice try!."
Then, when the next "I want to do karate!," I will push my back again, saying "Okay, try it."
By repeating this [accept challenge] loop (infinity ♾️), children will grow an unshakable sense of security that "Oh, no matter what you challenge, your parents will always be on my side."
If you set the goal of "increasing one new experience" rather than "getting things done well," the burden on your parents' shoulders will be much lighter 🌱
2️⃣ adults' "failure stories" with humor
For children, moms and dads look like "cool adults who can do anything perfectly." That's why they become anxious, "What if only I fail?"
In such cases, please let me hear the mistakes of adults.
"Dad (Mom) is doing this at work today!"
When children learn that even their favorite adults fail, they are surprised, and at the same time, the hurdle to failure goes down at once, saying, "Even adults make mistakes!
At this time, be careful not to create a dark atmosphere! ⚠️
By having fun while adding humor and saying "Ahaha, I did it!," you can deliver a positive image that "failure = something that should be laughed off and utilized next."
💡 A mind that is not afraid of failure grows from parents "not perfect" and "unconditional ally"
The child who turns into energy when told, "You can do it!" has a 100% sense of security (the foundation of the heart) that "Mom and Dad will still love me no matter what the outcome is" before that word.
Instead of focusing on whether or not you can do well,
"I'm trying to have a new experience."
"I'm trying to challenge myself now."
We amuse ourselves together and face it over and over again.
Beyond this accumulation, children should develop a spirit of challenge ‼️ their eyes shine, saying, "I want to do various things 🌱
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Please let us know in the comments section how you usually deal with children's "I want to try it"!
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私自身も子育てで、子どもの「やりたい！」という気持ちに寄り添うことの大切さを痛感しています。例えば息子が習い事を変えたいと言ったとき、最初は「すぐ飽きるのでは？」と心配したものの、まずは彼の興味を尊重して何度も付き合ってみました。その結果、挑戦に失敗することを恐れずに前向きに取り組むようになりました。親が「ナイストライ！」と励ますことで、息子は失敗も成長の一部だと理解しています。 また、家庭で大人の失敗談をユーモア交え話すことも効果的です。私が仕事でやらかしたエピソードを「こんなドジをしちゃってね〜」と笑いながら伝えると、子どもは「大人でも失敗するんだ」と安心し、自分のミスを過度に怖がらなくなりました。このように親の完璧じゃない姿を見せることは、子どものチャレンジ精神育成にとても役立つと実感しています。 「挑戦することそれ自体を褒める」ことと「新しい経験を増やすことをゴールにする」心構えは、親の負担も軽減し、子どもも伸び伸びと挑戦できる環境を作ります。日々の子育てで、焦らずゆったりとした気持ちで子どもの挑戦に寄り添うことが、子どもの自信と挑戦心を育む秘訣だと思います。ぜひ皆さんも、日常の中で親子で笑いながら失敗を乗り越える体験を増やしてみてくださいね。
