Selfish, difficult to raise... was not! The instruction manual of the shining temperament "exceptionally delicate child (HSC)" that one in five people has
I hate the tingling of clothes.
"Notice a slight change in the taste of miso soup"
"I always put myself off when I see my friend's face."
When you see your child like that, you may feel worried and confused in the group life, wondering why he is so nervous? or Did I become timid because of my way of raising him?
However, it is not selfish or because of the way it was raised. Perhaps the child may have a special temperament called [HSC (child with exceptionally sensitive sensitivity)], which is said to be born with about one in five people.
This time, we will introduce the four representative features of HSC "DOES" and the wonderful advantages hidden behind them.
🧠 Four features of HSC "DOES" and its true face
HSC children are born with four delicate antennas.
【 D 】 Think deeply (Deep processing)
They sense more than people do, and their processing of information is deep and detailed, so it takes time to make decisions or they can't take action.
✨ But it's... It's a great advantage to be thoughtful and have great insight.
[O] Receive excessive stimulation (Overstimulation)
It reacts more sensitively than people to various stimuli in life, such as sound, light, heat, and the touch of clothes. From infancy, it may lead to troubles such as "sleeping is bad," "waking up with a slight noise," and "back switch is sensitive."
✨ but it is a proof of the charm of being moved by even the smallest things and having a rich sensibility.
[E] High empathy (emotional response and empathy)
In order to sense people's feelings sensitively, tears are fragile or deeply sympathize with someone's sadness. That's why in group life, it is easy to feel "tough" more than others.
✨ But it is... "Sensitive and compassionate to be close to people from the heart."
[S] Detect even small stimuli (Subtle stimuli)
They are sensitive to small differences, such as faint sounds or changes in the taste of miso soup made by their mother. Parents may miss stress because they are good at being patient with their surroundings.
✨ But it's a talent of being able to grasp the situation without missing small changes, being good at caring for people, and having excellent intuition.
👋 to parents: Love the sensibility as it is, sometimes borrowing the eyes of a professional
HSC is not a disease or disability, but a precious "temperament" that the child was born with.
By being aware of trivial things and being deeply vulnerable, parents can accept their rich sensibilities by saying, "It's okay to be you," so that children can walk firmly on their own feet You can get a sense of security.
However, there are times when you pay too much attention to your surroundings and accumulate stress, or you can't help but feel reluctant and tired in a group life.
In such a case, please do not hesitate to ask "How should I respond?" only by parents, please feel free to consult with school counselors, professional medical institutions, specialists in child psychology.
Parents can also unload their shoulders by giving specific advice to their children from a professional perspective and getting tips on creating an environment. Let's snuggle up together one step at a time while supporting others so that your child can grow up freely by changing its delicacy into a "wonderful strength"!
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私自身、HSCの子どもを育てる親として日々感じていることを共有します。HSCの子どもは服のチクチクや食事の味の変化、周囲の人の気持ちなど、小さな刺激にとても敏感です。我が子も最初はその神経質さに戸惑い、わがままだと思ってしまった時期がありました。しかし、この子たちが深く考える（Deep processing）能力が高いことに気づいてからは、彼らの感性の豊かさを尊重し、我慢させすぎないこと、安心できる環境作りを重視するようになりました。例えば、服のチクチクするタグは切る、お味噌汁の味の微妙な変化に気づくことには「すごいね」と褒めるなど、子どもの感受性を大切にしています。 また、刺激を過剰に受けやすい（Overstimulation）ため、騒がしい場所では無理をせず、落ち着ける空間へ連れていく工夫をしています。共感性が高く感情豊かな（Emotional response and empathy）ため、悲しいことを一緒に感じたり、逆に喜びを共有したりする時間を大切にしてコミュニケーションを深めました。小さな刺激でも察知する（Subtle stimuli）という長所もあるため、些細な変化に気づいた時は子どもの直感力を信じてあげることが大事です。 育児で行き詰まったときは、スクールカウンセラーや児童心理の専門家に相談し、具体的な対応策を教えてもらうことで、親としても精神的な支えになりました。HSCは繊細な感性を持つ素晴らしい気質です。対応に悩む親御さんも多いですが、「あなたのままで大丈夫」という言葉をかけ、子どもの強みを伸ばすサポートをぜひ心がけてほしいと思います。これからも子どもと一緒に成長し、繊細な気質を理解して寄り添っていきましょう。
