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I used to wonder if my standards were too high.
Then I realized… the wrong person will make basic respect feel like you're asking for the world.
The right person won't need to be convinced to treat you well. 🤍
Stop shrinking your standards just to keep somebody who isn't meeting them.
— Lazzara
Would you rather be single or lower your standards? 👀
From personal experience, I've found that sticking to your standards is a vital part of self-respect and emotional well-being. Too often, people feel pressured to lower their expectations in relationships simply to avoid loneliness or conflict. However, this can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and hurt because basic respect and kindness are fundamental needs, not extravagant demands. I once stayed in a relationship where I convinced myself that my standards were too high because my partner consistently failed to show me respect. Over time, I realized that it wasn’t about me but about being with the wrong person. True respect feels natural and effortless; it shouldn’t require constant negotiation or compromise of your core values. The phrase "You're not asking for too much. You're asking the wrong person" from DE MERE COFFEE perfectly encapsulates this truth. When you meet someone who genuinely values and respects you, those basic needs won’t feel like a burden to them—they will be happy to meet them. Choosing to remain single rather than lowering your standards may seem challenging, but it opens the door to healthier relationships and self-growth. Embracing this mindset helps prevent toxic dynamics and encourages self-love and confidence. Remember, your standards are a reflection of your worth, so don't shrink them for anyone who doesn’t meet them.
