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... Read moreDealing with narcissistic abuse is incredibly challenging, especially when the thought of lowering contact with the narcissist in your life feels impossible. Many survivors struggle with this step, often fearing more abuse or feeling unprepared emotionally to make such a drastic change. In my own experience, acknowledging that I wasn’t ready to cut ties completely was a crucial part of my healing journey. It allowed me to set smaller, manageable boundaries that protected my well-being without overwhelming me. It’s important to recognize that recovery isn’t linear, and being 'not ready' is a valid place to be. However, becoming aware of the signs of ongoing abuse can empower you to make informed decisions. For instance, the repeated question, "OK SO ARE YOU READY FOR MORE ABUSE?" serves as a stark reminder to assess whether interactions are harmful or draining. Supporting yourself through this process can involve seeking trusted support networks online, such as communities sharing experiences under hashtags like #narctok. These platforms provide not only validation but practical advice on how to cope step-by-step. Remember, reducing contact doesn’t necessarily mean cutting off completely right away. It can start with limiting conversations, avoiding triggering topics, or setting firm boundaries about your availability. Over time, these small actions build resilience and confidence to protect yourself further. Ultimately, choosing your 'shitshow' means recognizing your limits and making choices that keep you safe. Recovery may require patience and self-compassion, but each step taken is progress toward reclaiming your peace and autonomy.

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