"Just this job, why can't you do it?": Decoding the Gaslighting sentence from Toxic Boss's mouth.

Toxic supervisor's classic speech sentences often come in the form of Gaslighting (speaking, punching us into self-doubt) or creating guilt.

An important technique for replying without bruising the water without turquoise is to use the main Assertive Communication (speaking strongly, on the basis of facts and without retorting emotions) to cut the cycle of using the boss's emotions. ❗️

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1. When being reclaimed outside of work / holidays

👿 Toxic Boss's sentence.

"You've been sending work on the line for a long time. Why haven't you answered? There's no responsibility for this?"

What He's Trying to Do: Break Personal Timeline, and Make Us Look Lazy

💡 Professional reply sentence

"Acknowledge of the work. Yes, during this evening / holiday, I have a personal mission to handle urgently, so I do not stand by the screen. As soon as I enter tomorrow morning at [time], I will clear this case first and update the progress for you immediately."

2. When thrown into the insertion work until swamped (but will take every job urgently)

👿 Toxic Boss's sentence.

"That's all work. Can't run time? Others can do it."

What he's trying to do: Throw the guilt of job management on us and compare it to feelings of impairment.

💡 Professional reply sentence

"I'm willing to help, sir, but since there are projects A and B on hand this evening too, so that the content does not fall out of standard, can you help me sort the priorities? Can you focus on which one comes up first, so that another can postpone the export deadline properly?"

3. When a mistake occurs and is wronged (even if he approves)

👿 Toxic Boss's sentence.

"Why did the results come out like this? The work was broken. I didn't tell you to do this."

What he tried to do: shirk responsibility both knowingly in the first place.

💡 Professional reply sentence

(Pry out the written evidence, use it politely)

"I understand that this round of results has not been targeted, as we have summarized in our email / meeting notes on [the date] that this plan will be adjusted. I would like to summarize the points that need to be edited from the actual page so that we can jointly adjust the page not to miss the next step."

4. When we present problems or say that resources / people are not enough

👿 Toxic Boss's sentence.

"Don't complain, talk about problems, I hire to find solutions, not excuses."

What He's Trying To Do: Silencing Employees, Not Listening to Facts, and Pushing the Structural Solving Burden on Us Alone

💡 Professional reply sentence

"I agree. I think we need to focus on the solution. Now our team has tried to solve the problem in full X and Y ways. But to prevent this problem from being repeated in the long run and affecting sales, I would like to discuss with you the executive view how to have more budget / manpower support at this point."

5. When trying to ask about growth or salary progress,

👿 Toxic Boss's sentence.

"Don't stick to money or position. Work well first. Spirit and experience are more important."

What He's Trying To Do: Using the Romance of the Word "Experience" to Value Employees

💡 Professional reply sentence

"Thank you for the advice. - Yes, I really love and have the experience from here. And in order for my career to grow alongside the goals of the company, I would like to disturb me to ask for clear advice (KPI) on what level I need to build or increase my goals to be ready for repositioning or return in the next round."

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The common point of every counter-sentence is always "pulling the boss back to the job and the numbers." Because Toxic Boss people tend to use "ambiguous emotions and words" to attack. Our response with Fact and politeness is a mirror, reflecting that he has to talk back for a reason without being able to punish us because we are not aggressive. 😏

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