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3 things... not to tolerate in a relationship

1. Obscurity...

Make you wait aimlessly. Good love must feel safe, dear, not let you have to guess, question, or just be someone's "secret man." If there is only ambiguity, I want you to walk out, because your talented person deserves clarity from the first step.

2. Neglect...

Make you feel like you're alone. The right relationship should not make you feel lonely in your heart, even with him by your side. A good person, if care, care, or even a short time, he can't give it to make you lonely and exhausted...Remember that we don't have a girlfriend to make ourselves feel more alone.

3. Being made to feel "not enough"

Until losing yourself, try asking if having this person makes us less good or worthless? If deep down, you have to keep adjusting until tired to run to his never enough standards, I want you to turn around and hug yourself tightly and remember that you are good enough and cute in your own way.

I wanted to say, "Your heart is too precious to put it where he doesn't appreciate it. A good person. It's okay to step out to love yourself more. I believe that one day you will find someone who is ready to take full care and honor your heart." 🤍✨

# Love # Love yourself # Good ideas # Relationship # An unclear relationship

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... Read moreนอกจาก 3 สิ่งที่ไม่ควรทนในความสัมพันธ์ที่ได้กล่าวมาแล้ว ฉันอยากแชร์ประสบการณ์ส่วนตัวที่ได้เรียนรู้ว่า การรักษาความสัมพันธ์ให้ดีต้องเริ่มจากตัวเองก่อนจริงๆ ครั้งหนึ่งฉันเคยอยู่ในความสัมพันธ์ที่เต็มไปด้วยความคลุมเครือและละเลย ถึงแม้เราจะรักคนๆ นั้นมาก แต่เรากลับต้องเสียใจเมื่อต้องรู้สึกเหมือนไม่ได้รับการตอบสนองที่ควรจะเป็น ความรู้สึกไม่พอ ความสงสัย และความเหงาที่สะสมเป็นเวลานาน ทำให้ฉันตัดสินใจที่จะพูดคุยและตั้งคำถามเพื่อให้ได้คำตอบที่ชัดเจน การเปิดใจพูดคุยกันนั้นสำคัญมาก เพราะความสัมพันธ์ที่มีแค่คำถามและความไม่ชัดเจนนั้น เป็นกรรมสิทธิ์ที่เราควรปฏิเสธ ถ้าอีกฝ่ายไม่สามารถให้ความชัดเจนและความใส่ใจกลับมาได้ สิ่งสำคัญคือการรักษาความรักและความเคารพในตัวเอง เพราะเมื่อไหร่ที่เรารู้สึกว่าถูกทำให้รู้สึก "ไม่พอ" หรือสูญเสียความเป็นตัวเองนั้น คือสัญญาณให้เราต้องหยุดและทบทวนว่าเราควรอยู่ในความสัมพันธ์นี้ต่อไปหรือไม่ การเลือกที่จะเดินออกมาเพื่อรักตัวเองให้มากขึ้น ไม่ใช่เรื่องง่าย แต่เป็นก้าวที่สำคัญที่จะช่วยเปิดทางให้เราได้พบกับความรักที่แท้จริงที่พร้อมเห็นคุณค่าและเคารพตัวเราอย่างสมควร สิ่งนี้ทำให้ฉันได้เรียนรู้ว่า "การรักตัวเอง" คือหัวใจหลักที่จะทำให้เรามีความสุขในความสัมพันธ์ไม่ว่าจะเป็นแบบใดก็ตาม

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