Is this normal or weird?

Seriously, I need to know if I’m totally insensitive or if this is actually just... a lot. I came home for the holidays, and I learned that my 23-year-old sister (the youngest) still has this nightly routine.

She falls asleep in my parents’ bed, and then my Dad carries her—like, full classic bridal carry, arm around his neck and everything—to her own room.

I hadn't seen this in years, since I moved out when she was 12. Seeing a full-grown, non-disabled 23-year-old woman being carried by her father gave me the biggest internal cringe of my life. I was genuinely confused.

My boyfriend was visiting, and he thought it was incredibly sweet, saying she's still his ""little girl."" He even said he’d do the same for his 19-year-old sister.

I know the youngest kid often gets babied more, and I love my family, but seeing this routine continuing into her twenties just feels... odd and a little inappropriate to me.

I don't want to judge them, especially since they are happy, but I can't shake the feeling that it's weird. Is my boyfriend right that this is sweet, or should a grown woman not be carried to bed anymore?

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2025/12/2 Edited to

... Read moreIt's not uncommon for family members to have unique traditions that sometimes challenge societal norms. In this case, a 23-year-old woman falling asleep in her parents' bed and then being carried to her own room by her father may seem unusual to many, but it can stem from a deep familial bond and a sense of comfort within that family. Cultural background often plays a significant role in how physical affection and care are expressed among family members. In some cultures, ongoing physical closeness and caretaking gestures like this can persist well into adulthood without stigma. It may also be a way for the family to maintain strong emotional connections, especially during special times like holidays. From a psychological viewpoint, rituals that provide a sense of security and love can be beneficial if all parties feel comfortable. However, if such actions trigger discomfort or embarrassment for someone observing, it can reflect differing personal boundaries or developmental expectations. Carrying an adult child in a 'bridal carry' style, while typically associated with romantic contexts, here serves as a gesture of care. While some might cringe or find it odd due to societal expectations about grown adults' independence, it's important to consider the happiness and consent of those involved. Ultimately, whether this behavior is seen as 'normal' or 'weird' varies greatly depending on family culture, personal values, and social norms. Healthy families respect each other's feelings and boundaries. If everyone in the family is comfortable and happy, occasional acts of care like this are just part of their unique dynamic. Open communication about feelings can help balance love with appropriate independence.

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There's nothing wrong with him doing this. Hell my uncle did it with his step daughter a few times. she would fall asleep on the couch and he would carry her to her bed. He didn't want to wake her too much as she would have had trouble getting back to sleep. He's just being a good dad to his daughter. Unless he acts creepy about it, nothing is wrong with this.

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