Pls be careful with these men if you go to ASU 🔱

It's disheartening to see that so many of us are searching 'why is ASU known for cheating' or 'ASU cheating relationship.' My personal story is just one piece of a bigger picture, and I wanted to share some broader reflections on navigating college relationships, especially here at ASU. It's a huge campus, full of incredible people, but it also means you might encounter a few 'ASU guys' who aren't as upfront as they seem. What I’ve learned is that cheating isn't limited to a specific 'type' of person. Just like in my experience with the engineering major, it’s not always the obvious red flags. Sometimes, the most charming, academically successful, or seemingly busy individuals can be the most deceptive. They are often 'smarter at getting what they want and hiding it,' as I mentioned in my story. So, how can you spot the signs before you get too invested? Here are some red flags I wish I had paid more attention to, and things I encourage you to watch out for: The 'Ghost' Girlfriend/Boyfriend Syndrome: My guy never once mentioned he had a girlfriend. If someone is vague about their past relationships, or never talks about family and friends in a way that suggests a stable personal life, that’s a red flag. Do they introduce you to their friends? Or are their interactions always discreet? Protective Phone Habits: This is a big one. If an 'ASU guy' becomes overly secretive with his phone, always keeping it face down, stepping away to take calls, or having multiple phones/social media accounts you don't know about, that's a huge warning sign. Think about the messages that were found on 'Jake's' phone, discussing 'Julissa' and 'Andrea' – these things often come to light through phone activity. Inconsistent Stories or Evasiveness: Do their stories always add up? Are they vague about their whereabouts or plans, especially on weekends? If you feel like you’re constantly trying to piece together information, rather than receiving it openly, that gut feeling is usually right. Avoidance of Relationship Labels: If you've been seeing an 'ASU guy' for a while and they consistently shy away from defining what you are, or avoid discussing future plans, it could be a tactic to keep their options (or other relationships) open. If you find yourself in a situation like mine, or if you suspect an 'ASU guy' you're dating is cheating, here's my advice: Trust Your Gut: Seriously, your intuition is powerful. If something feels off, don't dismiss it. Seek Support from Friends: Talk to trusted friends. They can offer an outside perspective and help you process what's happening. Don't Blame Yourself for 'Flirting': In my situation, the girlfriend asked me to 'flirt' with him. It's important to remember that the responsibility for cheating lies squarely with the person who is in a committed relationship and chooses to betray that trust. You are not responsible for their actions. Be Prepared to Walk Away: It hurts, but you deserve honesty and respect. If an 'ASU guy' is showing you through their actions that they're not trustworthy, walking away is an act of self-love. Don't let anyone make you feel less than you are. My experience with 'Darryl' taught me a lot about discernment and self-worth. You deserve a relationship built on transparency and respect, especially when you’re navigating the exciting but sometimes challenging world of college. Stay strong, stay aware, and always prioritize your own well-being.