🚩 Define The Relationship (DTR) 🚩

While situationships can feel fun and carefree at first, they often lead to frustration if one person develops deeper feelings while the other avoids commitment.

📝 Key Signs You’re in a Situationship 👀:

1️⃣ No Clear Labels

2️⃣ Inconsistent Communication

3️⃣ Plans Are Last-Minute

4️⃣ Physical Connection Over Emotional Depth

5️⃣ Avoidance of Future Talk

☝🏾 How to Get Out of a Situationship 🏃🏾‍♀️:

1️⃣ Be Honest with Yourself

2️⃣ Communicate Clearly

3️⃣ Set Boundaries

4️⃣ Date with Intent

✨ Tips for Dating with Intent ✏️ :

🔊Know Your Non-Negotiables

🔊Communicate Early

🔊Observe Actions Over Words

🔊Don’t Settle For Less Than You’re Worth

🙋🏾‍♀️ Personal Experience 🚮:

Chile… I’ve wasted two years of my life TWICE on individuals who truly did not deserve me. I was so caught up on seeing their potential rather than what they were showing me outright with their actions. The sweet (🙄) statements of “you’d make the perfect [partner] to someone” means nothing if they don’t intend to make you theirs or see themselves as that “someone”.

The breadcrumbing (when someone sporadically shows interest in another person to keep them engaged, even though they are not invested in the relationship) was so intense that it kept me by their side. Having a big heart coupled with being in DENIAL really can result in a lot of unnecessary stress and heartache, so evaluate what efforts you have been receiving (or not receiving) from the individual you’re courting.

Although time was wasted, I gained a lot of self-love, boosted my view of self, gained clarity, and learned to state my boundaries without turning back— which is why I make a point in asserting what I will and will not tolerate from ANYBODY. In the notes I provided as “stickers”, after that final blow was received the “no contact” began, which was the best decision of all. With all events, life gives us lessons, some of which we unfortunately learn the hard way. For these two guys, they learned the hard way that they lost a good woman with the purest of hearts. This is evident as they tried to make contact via newly developed social media accounts 👀 🍵. However, you must stand strong regardless of them doubling back, they lost access to you when they didn’t cherish you the first time✌🏾. As I stated in my final text “Quite certain by the time you figure out my worth I’ll be worth much more than that” 💯.

🤗 Remember, you deserve a relationship where your needs and feelings are met with love and respect. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re asking for too much! If respecting your time and appreciating you is too much, then THEY ARE NOT ENOUGH 💯.

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