She lent out my dress first?!

So I preordered this custom summer dress from a small designer months ago paid in full, even asked for a tiny alteration so it’s kinda one-of-a-kind.

It finally got finished, and I was super excited… until I saw her post a video of my actual dress being worn by another girl for an interview. Like?? I didn’t even get it yet 😭

When I messaged her, she said it was already ready but she wanted to “feature it” before shipping. I get it’s her design, but I paid for that dress it’s supposed to be mine, not something random people wear before me.

It honestly made me uncomfortable and a bit disrespected. I supported her business, but I didn’t pay to lend my outfit to strangers. Am I overreacting or would this annoy you too?

#AskLemon8 #LetsChat #FashionDrama

2025/10/20 Edited to

... Read moreSupporting small designers by ordering custom pieces is always exciting, especially when you get to request personalized alterations that make your outfit truly unique. However, situations like having your dress lent out to someone else before you even receive it, as shared here, raise important questions about customer expectations and designer protocols. When you prepay for a custom dress, you anticipate exclusivity and priority delivery. The designer’s decision to 'feature' your paid-for dress by lending it to another person, such as for an interview, can understandably cause feelings of disrespect and discomfort. This practice can blur the lines between promotional marketing and customer ownership. It’s important for designers to communicate clearly about their uses for finished pieces, especially when the item is custom-made and prepaid. Transparency in whether they reserve the right to showcase or lend your specific dress beforehand helps maintain trust and customer satisfaction. From the buyer’s perspective, ensuring that contracts or order confirmations specify handling of your item prior to shipment could help prevent misunderstandings. Buyers might politely request that their custom orders not be used for any public events or lend-outs before delivery. Community support and dialogue, like using hashtags #AskLemon8 and #FashionDrama, allows people to share similar experiences and gain advice. This interaction highlights the importance of respecting buyers’ investment and feelings, especially when the item holds personal significance due to its customization. Ultimately, this scenario invites a broader conversation about balancing promotional needs of small designers and protecting customers’ rights and expectations. Clear communication and mutual respect on both sides are key to a positive buying experience and for sustaining trust within the fashion community.

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Please put the name of designer so no-one uses her for one of a kind custom, if it is a one of a kind you don’t want someone else’s face attached to the dress

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She could’ve showcased it on a mannequin instead of a real person

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