For those who find someone's "normal" dazzling and painful. 5 tips to turn inferiority complex into hope
Someone's "normal" is dazzling and painful... For you. A former female manager talks about actual experiences and five perspectives that lighten your mind. Facing the identity of inferiority complex, we will deliver tips for working like yourself.
Someone's "normal" is too dazzling and painful.
Have you ever felt that way?
For example, people who post every day as a matter of course, seen on SNS.
A housewife who shops well at a supermarket.
A colleague who does everything smoothly...
I was struck repeatedly by that feeling when I reentered the workforce at the age of 60.
I wonder why I can't do this normally.
What "regret" teaches us
Do you have a point card?
Just because it doesn't come out, my face gets hot.
When someone's "natural" is very difficult for you, people tend to compare.
But - Behind the inferiority complex, there is actually a "yearning" hidden.
When I realized that, my feelings of blaming myself eased little by little.
The day when "I was able to do it" interferes
People who have had successful experiences in the past cannot "make themselves look smaller" when changing jobs or starting again.
I was typical of that.
But I failed many times and finally realized.
From the moment you accept the "impossible self," self-esteem begins to recover.
The "normal" of housewives had professional skills
People who go about their day to day as housewives are quiet professionals.
While saying "I'm not a big deal," I'm good at work, attentive, quick to switch...
All of them are "technologies" cultivated over many years of life.
Even if you are worried about re-employment, "what you have done at home" will be a splendid "work history."
Being able to work was a talent.
Stay healthy. Can go to work. Have a voice.
When I saw my friend who got sick, I realized that it was actually a "miracle."
It's hard to see on SNS, but it's amazing to work normally.
"The dazzling ordinary" may be the figure of my future
One day, an elementary school student said to me, "Auntie is here again today."
That word told me where I was.
Someone's "normal" may be a "future figure" for oneself.
That's why it looks dazzling.
Conclusion: "Developing your" normal "will change your life
What are you looking at in someone's dazzling appearance?
It's not just a feeling of inferiority complex, it's actually a "wish" that "I want to be like that too."
I was able to complete the day today.
Just that, the "normal" in you is definitely growing.
Comparing is not a bad thing.
However, after comparing, it is a fork in the road whether you can be kind to yourself.
please, from today...
Please believe in your "normal" little by little.
How to deal with inferiority complex
私も似たような経験があります。誰かの「普通」が輝いて見えてしまい、自分と比較して落ち込むことが何度もありました。しかし、そんな時に大切なのは、他人の「普通」をそのまま目標にするのではなく、自分自身のペースや成長に目を向けることです。 人の「普通」には多くの努力や経験、背景が隠れていることも多く、表面だけを見ると見えない苦労があると知ると気持ちが楽になることがあります。特に主婦の方の「普通」が持つプロの技術や、働くこと自体が「才能」であることを理解すると、自分に与えられた状況を肯定しやすくなります。 また、過去の成功体験にとらわれすぎて自分を責めてしまう場合もありますが、“できない自分”をまず受け入れてみることで新たな自己肯定感が育ちます。この劣等感と憧れの感情を分けて考え、希望に変換することがポイントです。 日々の小さな一歩、たとえば「今日一日をこなせた」ことに目を向けるだけでも、自分の「普通」は着実に育っていきます。周囲と比べることは悪いことではなく、その後に自分を優しく扱う習慣が人生の大きな分かれ道になります。 最後に、小学生から声をかけられた時に居場所を感じたように、あなたが感じる誰かの輝きは自分の未来の姿かもしれません。焦らずに自分の「普通」を信じて育てていくことが、人生をより豊かに変えてくれます。
