Why can't we break up? The deep swamp of extramarital love🌙
No matter how many times I think "let's end it," I will contact you again... 😭
Extramarital love is really a "swamp" that you can't get out of.
Today, I will gently unravel the reason from the mechanism of the mind.
Why can't we break up so much? 🤔
Time without meeting grows love (trap of limitation)
🕐 limited time to see you.
💫 So every single one feels special
🎰 same as gambling.
❤️🔥 brain reacts so strongly that you never know when you'll meet
Restricted love is more dependent than normal love.
◆ 2. "Secret world" is the escape place of the heart
A "world of just two people" that is released for a moment from the pain of home and work.
I feel like that speciality supports my heart.
But is it really love... 🤷♀️?
◆ 3. Guilt strengthens the bond on the contrary
Surprisingly,
The feeling of "doing bad things together"
it creates a sense of unity among accomplices 💔
👥 a sense of camaraderie
🎨 and Justify Relationships
📖 easy to assume "This is the love of fate"
◆ 4. Trap of Thunk Cost
⏰ time I've poured so far
💸 money spent
😣 the guilt I carry
I've come this far and I don't want to waste it.
That feeling makes me continue...
◆ 5. I'm afraid of the "reality" after parting
[Married person]
🏠 home without love.
💬 lack of communication
🚪 fear of losing a place to escape
[Single]
💔 pain to admit that it was an unrequited love
🌸 "Someday you will choose" The faint hope disappears
The human brain instinctively hates "losing," so parting is very scary.
Is it love or obsession? 🫣
If more than three apply, it might be "dependent."
✅ think about the other person all the time
✅ check SNS many times
✅ not contact me
✅ can't imagine myself without this person.
Tips to get out 💡
Five things you can do today 👇
📝 Write "what you lose" and "what you gain" on paper
🤝 Talk to someone (anonymous OK)
📱 Notifications Only
🚶♀️ avoid the places we used to meet.
💭 think "I just don't want to break up" instead of "I can't break up"
What I want you to remember 💕
🌟 don't blame yourself.
🕊️ / Breaking up is your freedom
✨ both choices are worth it.
🌈 future can be changed.
If you can't get out of an extramarital relationship, it's not because you're weak.
It's just the way the mind and brain work.
Start at least one thing you can do from this moment.
May your feelings be a little lighter 🌙
Love outside of marriage Adult love. How the heart works Free from obsession. Women in their 40s
婚外恋愛の関係を終わらせるこ とは簡単ではありません。特に、周囲に秘密にしているほど心理的な負担が増し、依存的な状態に陥りやすいです。そんなときは、まず自分自身の感情や思考を客観的に見つめ直すことが有効だと感じました。 私の場合、手帳に「失うもの」と「得るもの」を書き出すことで、頭の中が整理されました。特に、失いたくない安心感や希望がどこから来ているかを理解できたのが大きいです。また、信頼できる友人に匿名で相談したことで、自分だけが悩んでいるわけではないと実感でき、心が軽くなりました。 さらに、生活環境を変えるのも効果的でした。かつてよく会っていた場所を避けるようにして、自然と接触の機会を減らすことで気持ちの揺れが少なくなりました。SNSの通知も一時的にオフにして、相手からの連絡に縛られない時間を作ることを心がけています。 婚外恋愛を終わらせることは、時に現実の孤独や不安と向き合う勇気が必要です。しかし、そこには自分を責めずに受け入れ、自分の未来を自分で選択する自由があると思います。毎日の小さな一歩が、心の沼から抜け出すきっかけになるはずです。
