Has someone ever affected you like this? 🍋
I didn’t notice the pattern at first.
Every time he ghosted me, my appetite disappeared.
Food made me nauseous and my stomach felt tight.
I blamed stress, work, exhaustion — anything but him.
And when he came back, my appetite did too.
Not because I felt better… but because I was already conditioned.
By year four, the cycle felt expected.
My body reacted long before I ever understood the reason.
After a while, it wasn’t just the appetite.
My whole body felt out of balance — tired, wired, tense.
That kind of inconsistency wears you down in ways you don’t even notice at first.
🍋 Has someone’s inconsistency ever shut down your appetite?
It's a feeling so many of us know, isn't it? That desperate wish to just hit 'delete' on certain emotions, especially when someone's inconsistency leaves you reeling. I remember wishing I could just switch off the anxiety and the constant knots in my stomach when he'd disappear. It wasn't just my heart that hurt; my whole body was screaming for relief. I found myself living on 'coffee as a meal,' barely able to stomach anything solid. The article perfectly captures that sense of a 'nervous stomach while waiting for a text,' and for me, it manifested as constant nausea and a complete loss of appetite. I started experiencing rapid weight loss from anxiety, not because I was trying, but because my body was in full 'survival mode.' It’s a strange paradox, wanting to nourish yourself but feeling utterly repulsed by food. When someone you care about is inconsistent, your nervous system can end up constantly on alert, waiting for the next shoe to drop. That 'appetite returning when he reappeared' wasn't a sign of health, it was a conditioned response to a temporary relief. It’s like your body is always bracing itself, and that takes a massive toll. I truly felt like I was 'losing weight but not on purpose,' and it was a stark sign something was deeply wrong. So, what do you do when you just want to delete feelings? First, I learned that trying to suppress them often makes them stronger. Instead, I started by just acknowledging them. It sounds simple, but saying 'I feel anxious because he ghosted me' out loud to a trusted friend or even just to myself in a journal made a difference. For the physical side, when eating felt impossible, I focused on gentle nourishment. Smoothies, broths, or small, bland snacks became my temporary friends. It wasn't about forcing a full meal, but about giving my body *something*. Hydration became key too. Sometimes, just a warm cup of tea could soothe that 'nervous stomach' more than I expected. I also realized I needed to break the 'cycle feeling like survival mode.' This meant being honest with myself about the inconsistency. If someone's actions are consistently leaving you with a 'killed appetite' and feeling out of balance, it's a huge red flag. It’s not about you being broken; it’s about their behavior being unsustainable for your well-being. Finding activities that grounded me, like short walks in nature or listening to calming music, helped to regulate my nervous system. It's a long journey when you've been in that kind of emotional rollercoaster, but slowly, I started to reclaim my peace, one small step at a time. Remembering that my body's reaction was a signal, not a weakness, was a powerful shift.
Yes, inconsistency has definitely killed my appetite before. When something feels unstable or emotionally draining, it can affect your body just as much as your mind.