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Once you have a second child, life changes.💗

📔 # Diary of a Mother of Two: The Day the Whole World Turned Around Two Children

I didn't sleep well last night. The little guy's little cry got louder again.

The clock says it's almost 3am... a round of milk pumps that don't know how much in one day. 🍼

While the eldest three-year-old is restless, calling for "Mom ~ Where's Mom?"

The heart is like being pulled into two strands, each one in a different direction, but the end of the rope is also tied to the same word - "mother."

When I was pregnant, I thought I was ready, because it was past... but when the time came, everything was new again.

Life rhythm arrangement between "milk pump - soothing baby - eating cold dinner - washing clothes - lulling another"

Maybe Mom feels like herself a superhero who never gets a break.

The eldest child still wants me to play, but when I hold him, he turns quietly.

My heart is secretly hurt, but I understand... because he's still just a kid who needs a "full mother."

So I have to gradually adjust my heart rhythm.

From mother of one person → to mother of two lives.

Some days are tired until wanting to cry.

But when I saw two children sleeping next to me - one holding my mother's hand tightly, the other sleeping fertilizer on my chest.

Every turmoil, every lethargy, every mess of life, it becomes a "motherly pleasure" that's hard to explain.

Because my life never really takes a break.

But there's never a day... that I want to run away from this life. ❤️✌🏻

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